I'm stressed and more angry than i used to be help me how to control or get it out of my system ?

Question

since i 've started my senior i've been gettin more angry like if some one says something about me or something i take more offense about than i used to and it makes want to beat the crap out of them ( i 've always have some anger issues but now its starting to show more ) my friends are starting to notice and i've been really mean to them i dont realize i'm doing it in till its to late i say im sorry when i realize what did or have just said and they forgive me. is there any way to help release my anger with out people getting hurt cuz when i get really angery i start hitting so pl plz help ! i dont like being like this plz help me !!! thx u in advance

Answer 1

It sounds like you are worried about what is going to happen with you after you graduate. That can cause a person to have doubts about them self and so they become more sensitive to what others say about them. It's like having a sore spot on your body and when someone says something that isn't favorably about you it's like if they grabbed you where you were already hurting and you get angry.

Since you love God then you can claim his promise in Romans 8:28 that He will cause all things to work together for good in your life. Remember that you are not going through anything that doesn't happen to everyone in some measure during this season of growing up.

1 Peter 5:5 Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."

6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, 7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.

8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world. 10 And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. 11 To him be the dominion forever and ever. Amen.

Peter reminds us that God cares for us and that He is always there to cast our cares or worries upon. As Paul wrote in Philippians 4 when we do that the peace that goes beyond all understanding will guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Peter also tells us to humble ourselves and God will give us grace. Instead of worrying about how you might compare to others in the eyes of this world and getting caught up in the competition for praise for good looks and good grades and the future prospect of a high paying job and a good looking successful husband, realize that you are a child of the living God of Heaven who loves you and who has a plan for your life that doesn't depend upon what other people think about you.

He is the God who opens doors that no man can shut and his unconditional love for you lasts for all eternity. As Jesus told us in Matthew 6 seek first his Kingdom and his righteousness and don't worry about getting your needs met or what will happen to you tomorrow. The almighty God of Heaven has declared that you are his beloved child and He holds your future in his hands and will look out for you, in Jesus' name, amen!

Lastly, as it says in Ephesians 4 and as Peter reminds us, when you feel angry, sin not, and don't give the evil one a foothold in your life. If you have offended people then humble your self and apologize and ask them to forgive you. In the future when you find your self getting angry take those thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ Jesus as it says in 2 Cor 10:4-5. You destroy the stronghold of the enemy when you realize that you are not defined by what fallible humans say about you but by what the omniscient and almighty God of Heaven says about you.

Answer 2

This is going to sound very cavalier; however you need to look at everything and just say: It will either work or it won't.

Understand that YOU CANNOT control anything with the exception of attitude. I am not talking about being sassy.. I am talking about how you CHOOSE to perceive things. Sure you can know something is really wrong and/or that someone has really wronged you; however you ALWAYS have 2 choices.. react to it or don't. From there your 2 choices are react appropriately or not. From there your 2 choices are accept the results or not. If you make the right decisions you will ALWAYS 2 clear choices and several other sub-choices; however the first time you choose a vengeful way.. your choices decrease to 1 and that one is out of your control..

Honestly look within yourself and be honest.. if you are not honest.. you will NEVER improve. If you find that you've felt wronged or are jealous or simply are experiencing your hormones. then give yourself some space, peace and try to do better incrementally.

You can be mean to some of your friends and perhaps some strangers; however always remember: There is ALWAYS someone meaner than you with less to lose.. and if you are not careful you may wrong them. I am not threatening you.. just stating a fact.

I applaud you for this question and do hope that you will at least take what I've said in.. you do not have to follow-it word for word.. but trust me I did not get it out of a book..

I wish you well!

Answer 3

I had an anger issue for years. I realized I had an anger problem when I would get really angry at my fellow drivers and I would snap rude comments to just about anyone . I went home one day and looked up "Psychologist" in the phone book and found lots of ads that said "Anger".

Anger is a very common psychological problem. I think it is often from being repressed or controlled. At some point, you retaliate very much like a 2 year old who is trying to see if he's really liberated from his mom.

You need to vent to a good friend or school counselor on a regular basis - someone who is forgiving, intelligent, and can make sense of your behavior - and be objective and honest..

The best thing you can do is learn to completely change your reaction to the negatives you perceive. That takes practice. Try being the "observer" of situations instead of reacting to them. Watch and listen instead of thinking all the time.

It's not about you. Even if it is about you... The behavior of others is only about them.

Do not expect to change yourself in a week or a month but do remember what your goal is and keep that in the front of your mind always.

You are learning to control your reactions.

When in doubt, always keep your mouth shut. Practice practice practice.

Also know that people who have wronged you make mistakes just like you have.

Answer 4

Try to do something that will make you feel better, like a hobby or something. Take a day on the weekend off, and just go havbe fun; go to the mall and shop, get your hair, or nails done, you know, just have some time for yourself. If you can't really do that, (you know, at school,) then try to calm yourself down before you get mad at your fiends. Think before you speak or do something that might get you in trouble, like beating the crap out of someone.(:

Answer 5

That's exactly how i feel sometimes! It helps to maybe take boxing lessens or work out vigourously and sweat all your anger out. I know most of the time u get mad though u can't just leave and do that, and that's my problem too. I hate it when i get mad and i just want to beat the crap out of someone and i can't. You just force yourself to hold it in and try super hard to not think about it or get mad. but it's a problem i have too and i hate not knowing what to do about it. so i'm starring your question, if i can, i'm only level one

Answer 6

i do no longer think of which you're fantastic. perhaps you have a good variety of rigidity to handle. merely attempt to channel your anger in a greater suitable way. Do greater workout, consume healthy and get a good variety of relax. in case you sense like slashing somebody merely get out out of your place for a jointly as and take a walk to sniff the clean air. in case you have money, you could continuously seek for professional help from docs or psychiatrist.

Answer 7

Ever think about getting into martial arts? It'll give you an outlet to hit stuff & teach self discipline at the same time.

Answer 8

In the real life, people use therapists and stress dolls to hit and it costs a lot of money....

My prediction for you is that you somehow land into a carreer and then use your resources to distinguish fact from reality.

Answer 9

Anger is caused by you expecting someone else to do something, and they don't do it.

Such as you think someone's preventing you from doing something.

Figure out who you are expecting to do what, and that will be the first step to dealing with your anger.

Answer 10

i had the same problem well what i did was at least just say to them you got something to say say to my face when she tells you yeah and answers then shove her lol but there is another you can go get a diary write all down and like start punching it