My husband got a job that took him away from home for 6 months. When he first left, he called and talked to me all the time and I could call and talk to him when ever I wanted, but after he was there about 2 months, one of his buddies went down to work also, well they ended up being roommates.
After that, my husband wouldn't talk to me on the phone unless he was away from his buddy or buddies, if I called him in his room or called him on his cell phone and he was with someone, he always told me he would call me back.
Usually when he called me back he was calling from out in the hallway away from everyone.
I told him that it hurt my feelings that he couldn't talk to me around anyone, he said that he just wanted our conversations to be privite, he also said that he didn't know why that would hurt my feelings.
We've been married for 15 years. Talking to each other around other people had never been a problem before this....
what do you think
2007-08-25 05:54:50 · 11 answers · asked by justwondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I would believe him. You are special to him, and his buddies don't need to hear you two's conversations. I do the same thing when I am at work, if there are others in the room I tell my husband I will call him back. My co workers don't need to know what our conversations are about.
You know they may tease him about saying I love you to you, or something of that nature. I know my husband's co workers who are all guys, tease him a lot about everything. So no sense in giving them any fuel either.
2007-08-25 06:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I also work away from my wife. Sometimes other men are in the office when she calls and it is hard to be all love and kisses when they are around. It,s just a guy thing remember guys are a lot crueler with there jokes to each other and i know that if i spoke whats really in my heart i would be laughed at and stired up.General conversation is ok but if you want to hear him whisper sweet nothings to you give the guy a break and let him talk to you were he feels comfortable.
2007-08-25 13:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by gordie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's up to anything actually. My hubby knows everything there is know, but I will still try to find a quiet room to talk in. We don't have secrets, but I am just that way. Partly because ANY background noise I can't seem to focus on a conversation or hear it that well.
2007-08-25 15:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by zen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am like that too. When I'm away from home i like to have more private conversations with my wife than have everybody try to listen in on it. I wouldn't worry too much bout this unless he has been unfaithful in the past.
And if this hasn't been a problem before can i ask are you comparing this to when he was gone away from home? Or are you comparing to random phone calls at work?
2007-08-25 13:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by mims03 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am like that with my husband,we have a long distance relationship (he is deployed) and when people are around, i tell him i would rather call him back. simply for the fact that all we have is the phone and i dont want to be distracted by others, meaning being able to pay full attention to him and not having to watch what i say because people may listen.
2007-08-25 13:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by not this way 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why be afraid to show how you feel about your spouse? Has society made it bad to show affection to your loved ones? My hubby and i never feel afraid to say how we feel about each other just because someone is around. When we talk on the phone, no one else exists but us no matter who is listening. We love each other and we are not afraid to let people know.
2007-08-25 13:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy to me! i dont want to jump to conclusions or get your mind wondering, but why would he step away from people if he was trying to hide you or someone from you!? thats bull$hit about private convos! it never mattered anything to him previously...and he cant understand how that would hurt your feelings...you should investigate! i dont know how far they are, but i would try my best to get someone to help you find out whats going on! two men in an apartment far away able to do whatever they please at any moment,and hiding phone calls...hmmm i would look into it! GOOD LUCK!! hope it all works out!
2007-08-25 13:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something is up, that's for sure! Go visit him unannounced, and see what you find. And, ask all the right questions. There may be nothing to it, but I somehow doubt that. Him changing over night, gives me food for thought. Hope everything works out okay.
2007-08-25 13:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by Pinyon 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe the other guys were just giving him a hard time about being so close to you. So to keep his "manhood" alive, he is trying to play it "cool". Leave him alone - it'll get better once he comes home again.
2007-08-25 13:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I say he is hiding something. Something meaning a woman.
2007-08-25 13:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋