I'm just wondering if maybe there is something wrong with me, or if other women are like this also. It just seems like since I've been pregnant...I really haven't had much of a sex drive....me and my man are constantly fighting about it, because I'm never in the mood. Is something wrong with me? Do other women feel this way too? What do I do? Please dont be rude.....
2007-08-25 03:57:09 · 19 answers · asked by momma of a 2yr old/1 angel baby 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Its totally common. Sex drive is caused by hormones. Those hormones change with pregnancy. More often than not women have no sex drive while pregnant, and for a while after baby is born.
It will come back though.
One thing you can do is to let him try to "talk" you into it. Some times all it takes is a little more careful foreplay to put you in the mood.
But he also needs to realize that your body and emotions are taxed beyond belief right now, and he will not die from not having sex for a few months. That child is more important than any release he might get. He will have you back eventually. Until then, if he needs to, he can visit palm beach. It wouldnt be the first time he services himself.
2007-08-25 04:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard many different things... but one thing is always the same. You are either on one end of the spectrum or the other. You have a super high sex drive, yours is non-existent. Personally, mine has skyrocketed. But that could have something to do with the fact that I had an abnormally high one prepregnancy. But some women completely lack one in pregnancy. Sometimes you go through stages where you want it, then suddenly the next month, you don't. It also could be self esteem related too. Just know that your hubby WANTS to be with you. Not just to get his rocks off. He has a hand for that. He wants to touch you and feel you. Beyond that, it is completely normal to not be in the mood 24/7 when pregnant.
2007-08-25 04:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Panda Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you except that you have a baby growing inside you that has taken over your body! That happens sometimes when women are pregnant... I have heard women say both things... that they either want it all the time or not at all. It's really hard being pregnant isn't it? I am pregnant with my third child and I know what it's like to have no control over your own body and feelings. You are almost at the end though... just tough it out. Prettty soon you are going to have a beautiful little baby to take care of and then you'll be too tired anyway. (: It will go back to normal after the baby comes, don't worry.
2007-08-25 04:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by TeggieMcG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very common for a lot of women. When I was pregnant (3 times) it was good in the beginning and then about the time I got to 6 months or so it just died after that. Men do not understand what is going on in your body and how uncomfortable doing certain things can be. You will get it back do not worry, it will just take a little time. But I do suggest you give your man some before that baby is born!
2007-08-25 04:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is perfectly normal to have a low sex drive while pregnant so I wouldn't worry about it. I know it can be very difficult and frustrating for you husband as well ( I have one child and am pregnant) but it is always better if you discuss what you are going through with him and may even find a better way to get you "in the mood" because fighting and frustration definitely won't help. Try more romantic relaxed settings, massages, dressing up to feel a little more sexy because it is difficult when you have your belly bulging way out there. Hope this helps .
2007-08-25 04:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Razz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes......very common. You don't have to have a sex drive to make your man feel loved and wanted. He is probably thinking his sex life is over now that you will be a mother shortly.
Let him know that he is still the love of your life.
You might try lying on your side and using a lubricant. It won't hurt you, and you will have that closeness that is so important for the two of you.
Sex is not something that we should only have because we are in the mood. Think of your partner. Making him feel good should make you feel good.
2007-08-25 04:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by conim2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you are not alone. I had the same problem. At first ( around 1-4 months) I was too sick and didn't feel like it. In the middle, we did ok. But in the last month, I was too big, too tired, and too uninterested. To be honest with you it took me about 3 months after my baby was born to get my sex drive back. I was tired from taking care of baby and too much on my mind. It will come back. You have to explain it to me gently. It seems like they are selfish (and maybe they are a little) but it is the way they are wired and they don't know how we feel just like we don't know how they feel.
Whatever you do, don't let it get you stressed. Baby needs you calm. Congrats!
2007-08-25 04:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Arrica H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 36 weeks pregnant and loosing my mind as well! I am a mess. The back pain, BIG movements, the constant peeing (especially at night), and oh yeah, I have a cold! I am so thankful I am 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced; maybe just maybe the baby got the hint that I am anxious! I am dying to meet my son as well and feel like it will never come. I am still working so thank God I have that on my mind but even at work, I look up baby stuff! There is no hope for us =( lol
2016-05-17 10:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by dorene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol oh no your perfectly fine. I am begining to think that that whole ' increased sex drive' thing they talk about is a myth. I dont want my hubby to touch me sexualy with a 10 ft pole lol. If you dont want to do anything then dont, it wont be enjoyable if you are not into the mood anyways. There are other ways you can keep your hubby/b/f happy while you are miserable! Then he wont feel so left out. Get creative =-) good luck to you. Its almost over!
2007-08-25 04:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Katy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through that as well. My husband when he does get some he trys to make sure he is gentle as possible cause he doesn't want to hurt me. I did have a brief period where I wanted sex but, most of the time not interested. At some points my husband wants alot of attention from me along with trying to give me alot of attention. When he is like that I think I really don't want attention at the moment or to give attention cause I get so much from people I know.
2007-08-25 04:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by deqwa_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋