I know because I can be a petty creature sometimes. Please help me. There is a girl I have known since childhood we attended the same church since we were babies and have always hated each other. There wasn't anything specificly.Other than dumb female competition. Its just a rilvary that has been since we can remember. Now that we are adults we avoid each other for the most part. When we have to deal with each other its fake friendliness.
Well we both have daughters and they play together in the nursery all the time. Now my daughter is 2yrs old and hers is turning 3. But they play ALL the time. Neither one of us has ever stopped them from playing together.
Heres the thing her daughter mailed my daughter a bday invite. Now I can't just drop my daughter off.I have to stay. None of her friends like me. She continues to semi bad mouth me to this day. I am 25 and know the right thing to do. But the other half of me is saying 4get it..I know Im being so petty right now.
2007-08-25 02:48:50 · 5 answers · asked by kimberli o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It takes 2 to have a relationship. Maybe she bad mouths you and is petty but you take the high road. Stay with your daughter at the birthday party. Show her a side of you she doesn't know, a sweet, positive person. Ask questions about her life to show genuine concern. Make comments on photos in the home, pay honest compliments, talk about interesting topics not gossip. Don't talk too much about you unless asked. Let the focus be on her. Allowing a genuine relationship to develop will also benefit your children. There is so much sadness and negativity in the world, show her that you are not what she thought. When you do these things, whatever threat she felt by you will dissolve. Good luck!
2007-08-25 03:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've taken the first steps to a reconciliation here, so I applaud you for understanding your feelings and trying to make yourself better by compensating.
1. Take your daughter with gift and attend the birthday party
2. Ask to assist the mother during the party - not pushy- just offer. Accept her decision graciously.
3. Be a role model mother and friend
4. Next day or so, call and thank her for being so gracious a hostess and confess that there has always seemed to be tension between you two and you cannot remember why. Honestly confess that you have no idea how this feeling started, but you find it awful that your 2 girls have so much fun and that you 2 adults seem to be separated by some cloud of misunderstanding.
5. INvite her to join you at Starbucks for a cup.
Good Luck
PS. No matter what her reaction or whatever accusation she may throw at you, NEVER get emotional or raise your voice. Just simply say that you only wanted to let her know how great the party was and that you hope you 2 can be more cordial.
2007-08-25 03:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two must be very simular individuals. Both of you are being petty right now. The only thing you can see you have in common with her is this mask of competitivity. There must be something deeper. But as its been going on for years now, the thickness of the mask is increasing.
For the sake of your daughters friendship, I suggest you put a bit more effort into it. Theres no need to forget something like this. Especially as your daughter bonds more with her little friend. You need to work it out with your "friend". Have a quiet chat with her, you need to discuss the things that have been going through your mind the past few years. The thinsg about her which annoy you, and she will do the same. After thats off your chest, it will be easier to resolve it. You can see what really you have in common and be friends. Im sure she will feel the same. Just talk to her, alone.
2007-08-25 03:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by indigo♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her up. Talk to her, and tell her how you feel. Go to the party and, ask to invite a friend. But try to chat with the other women. Be nice, and not fake nice, real nice. Things can only get better, trust me, it's true! Best of luck!
2007-08-25 03:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-25 02:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by gemyjams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋