My mother and I had a conversation about wanting me to play the lottery. It did not go well. We ended up getting into an argument. She, like the rest of the people in the world, always get mad at me when I make my own decisions in life. Nonetheless, I should have let everyone make my decisions for me, since I'm not allowed to make them by myself. I should have known better than that; not to make my own decisions by myself. It's far too super duper dangerous.
2007-08-25 01:18:01 · 6 answers · asked by Louise Smith 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Be strong. I don't know how old you are, but the younger you learn this lesson, the better: People who make choices and decisions are the ones who get ahead.
One of the biggest problems in our society is that people seem incapable of making decisions. From the silliest of things like "what do you want for dinner" to important things like "what do you want to do for a living", people are not trained to make decisions. Your mother is contributing to the problem.
Those who make decisions stand up and take responsiblity for themselves. They make choices and they get things done. Of course, that will lead to making some mistakes along the way. But, that's expected and even welcome because mistakes turn out to be learning experiences.
Those who make decisions wind up in higher paying jobs because they are leadership quality. It's a product of the old catch phrase: lead, follow, or get the hell out of the way.
There will always be detractors of those who make choices. Why? Because it is hard and not everyone will agree. Some will be jealous because they wish they had the ability or the power to make decisions. Whatever. You cannot please all of the people all of the time. And, as long as you are doing the right thing for you and being considerate of others, you can hold your head up and move forward proudly.
Too dangerous? Are you kidding? Would you rather be daring and take a few risks for a better life or would you rather just be some name-less, face-less sheep blending in with the crowd just because it is eaiser? Heros take risks. Be a hero. After all, if you don't do it for yourself...
2007-08-25 01:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by swimeveryday 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it is a matter of experience and common sense.
You need to learn to negotiate with the people that cares about you. The positive results of your decisions will build trust and after that they will be asking you for advise.
You need to make mistakes in order to increase your experience. Of course you need to get success as well. So continue deciding by yourself but don't forget on learning the lesson and avoiding the same mistake again.
People that care about you is normally observing what are you doing and finding patterns. If you see that one friend is constantly making an error, wouldn't you warn him before making the mistake again??
Mothers, fathers and friends with more experience than you developed wisdom. That helps them to find where risk is higher or lower. Taking risks is fine but it doesn't mean that as higher risk as better chances to win you have... all the opposite. If you save your money with effort during a month... and you plan to "invest" it on the lottery actually you are getting a very high risk, therefore much more possibilities to loose your money, time and effort.
Never trust in the "luck", instead prepare yourself to get opportunities. For example:
"if someone offers you a great job for 1 million $ a year, but you need to speak french, and you don't... what will you say? that you are unlucky? But if you do speak french, you will say that you was prepared! your friends will think that you are lucky..."
Then it is better to invest your time, effort and money in activities that will increase your chances to get opportunities. Develop your talents. Develop your relationships.
You can decide, but learn to decrease risk and increase opportunities and never put in risk what really matters to you.
Like that you will also improve relationships because people will trust on you more and more.
Money is not the goal, happiness is.
Good luck!
2007-08-25 01:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by b4contact 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are your judgements made with dismiss for the sentiments, welfare, and rights of others? If no longer, comprehend that others won't continuously trust what you sense is suited for you. you're able to additionally evaluate that what you do will impression the lives of others in approaches you probably did no longer comprehend once you made your decision. no remember in case you sense to blame is as much as you.
2016-12-12 11:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're upset with your decisions regarding Tobey M., and feel because of that, they do not trust your other decisions. I don't know though.
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Good luck with your question.
2007-08-25 01:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't get it, you are in the medical office proffession, so you got a decent job. To make a decision, you first need your options, just don't tell any one or ask anyone of your family for advice. just keep them out and dont tell them anything
2007-08-25 01:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its just a growing phase...for her and for you...a give and take...its hard for a parent to let go of the control but it will happen little by little...be patient
2007-08-25 02:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋