I dont love my wife but she is madly love me.What can I do??

Question

She takes sleeping pill when she thinks I may leave her.What can I do???She is not tall,sexy and beautiful lady.She becomes angry very soon.She cant do almost anything at home.She is always having problems.She is tooooo sensitive ,restless and cries always.She is a doctor and very good at it.I always look at other beautiful,tall and sexy woman.I told her.But she cannot think anything help living with me.What can I do????

Yes I had premature ejaculation problem.I told her.She didnot complain.
And now I dont have this problem.But we are facing relationship problem as before as she is made at me and I cant love her. But I am trying.I am made at all tall,sexy and devoted ladies.I love to watch them in TV and market,street etc. what can I do??I came to love her.But I cant.But she is too mad.As a religious man I dont want to hurt her.when she cries and beg to live with me,I again start to try to live.But I am unhappy.I dont want to scape as one advised me.I want to see her happy.and also I want to be happy.Please give me salution.

In addition I got ur help a lot to solve my premature ejaculation problrm.I sitopped musterbating as well as watching pornography.I worked for me.God helped me and I want mercy for those sin works..

Yes we met before marriage.She loved me as now.I came to love and felt me lucky to get her love.But she is too sensitive.It creates problem for me.She wants and expects a lot.She is always expecting and centered in me.For a little reason we are fighting always.She is always sorry for some reasons.she is not practical and mature enough.She is not a good wife.I feel I am serving her.She always wants to get my touch.It crerates problem for my career,higher studies.She becomes angry with a little thing.When she is good,she is too good..but when she is angry with a simple thing,she doesnot know what she is telling...It creates problem to my family..

Answer 1

Why did you married her for the first place if in the long run after your love fade away for her, you want her to parting ways?
Do you in before getting married is not as simple decision to swallow? for you to take your vows for better or worst? Do you married her for temporary life and need to let her go after she got hard sacrificed her life with you? Not unless she does not deserved with you because of her wrong doings or mistakes are still not reason for getting devorced?

Man, be man enough and keep the obligations you have been with? It is kind of selfish for a man to do that! You need to ask yourself and evaluate things why this to happen between you and her, as husband and wife, if both of you are eager to part ways? Divorced for selfish reason is self serving? You two need to talk and patch up thing to save your married for good. You are only insecured of her because she hold better job and position with you? Be considerate, as I can advise you.

Answer 2

It sounds like she is a very stressed lady, and she needs to get help to build her confidence and not be so dependant on you to provide it for her. It is not love she feels, but she clings to the security you give her because she is too afraid to be on her own. My x husband was like this when I left him, and he tried to commit suicide, but even the nurse said it was emotional blackmail. I knew I couldn't stay with him because I didn't respect him, and if you can't respect a person, you can't love them. The more she tries to cling on to you the less you will end up respecting her, so you really do have to let her go and tell her to stop emotionally blackmailing you. It sounds cruel I know, and it's so hard to do, but you only get one life, and you can't waste it with someone who's making you miserable. Good luck whatever you decide. The road ahead may be a tough one, but you can get to the other side of it.

Answer 3

Go to marriage counseling.. quick! Sounds like she needs an antidepressant.. I had that emotional stuff can't sleep thing going on and those did wonders for me. I'm the person I use to be not the basket case I had turned myself into. Be understanding. She needs to see a psychiatrist and you need to give her an ulitmatum since you are oviously not happy and if things don't change then staying with her isn't going to be healthy for you either. Good Luck.

Answer 4

If u have not been married long go get an anaulment.
If u been together 4 a while seek professional counceling
if u r seeing someone else move out apply for divorce

Answer 5

You need to step up and stop the cycle. You married this woman...now you need to be honest and end it. By playing these mind games with each other is just creating more resentment and prolonging the inevitable.

Obviously she can't see the big picture here...or you are not being truly honest with her. Regardless of how hard it is or what she threatens...you need to step out of this. It is whats best for both of you.

Eventually she will realize she deserves someone who truly loves her...and you can move on as well. Good luck

Answer 6

I know that you put this under Marriage & Divorce, but I think should have been under Mental Health. I think she needs some help there. I don't know how old she is, but it might be that time in her life where her body homones are changing. I know that there are pills that can help with the homone change.
So, please don't get a divorce until all the options have been explored.

Answer 7

it's hard to love someone who is emotionally blackmailing you. if you give in to blackmail once, they'll do it again and again. you must make decisions for your life, not someone else's. That is their concern. She has some issues to sort out. Her issues are not your job. Do what you want to. Don't let her actions stand in the way.

Answer 8

It sounds like you got conned into marriage in the first place. She is blackmailing you, which isn't love , it's a control issue on her behalf. As hard as it seems to do, just pack your bags and get the **** out of there. Have a place to go and some money to get by, so, your not tempted to got back to 'prison'. Your being institutionalized !!! be brave. x

Answer 9

I usually don't recommend books because I hate it when people recommend them to me, but I honestly wish I could buy "Love & Respect" for every married (and engaged) person I know. So try and hear me out...

It states that a woman's driving need is to feel loved and when she feels loved she feels happy. A man's driving need is to feel respect and when he feels respected he is happy. When a woman feels unloved she acts out disrespectfully to her husband, and when a man feels disrespected he acts out unlovingly towards his wife and the crazy cycle begins.

If this is setting off any light bulbs for you read on...

"I wrote this book out of desperation that was turned into inspiration. As a pastor, I counseled married couples and could not solve their problems. The major problem I heard from wives was, "He doesn't love me." Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Many husbands fail to deliver. But as I kept studying Scripture and counseling couples, I finally saw the other half of the equation. Husbands weren't saying it much, but they were thinking, "She doesn't respect me." Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court (and that includes evangelical Christians).

As I wrestled with the problem, I finally saw a connection: without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love. Around and around it goes. I call it the Crazy Cycle - marital craziness that has thousands of couples in its grip."

I am not even half-ways through the book and workbook, and while my husband is not studying the material with me it has already worked miracles in my no-longer-failing marriage.

If you do believe in God I highly recommend this biblically based book. It's not a "religious freak" book or anything but it's nice to know that it is based on things in the bible and not just some theory or pop psychology book, and it's been a #1 seller for over 2 years now... it's working for thousands of couples!

Answer 10

The best solution is to gain control over it. As someone already said, stop when you're getting there and relax. Pay more attention to pleasuring your mate--orally, perhaps--and avoid rubbing your penis up against anything while doing so. It will take work on your part and patience on both parts. Learn here http://EndPrematureEjaculation.enle.info/?n8fo

As a last resort, some antidepressants curb sexual functioning with the intention of learning the pleasure of restraint after which you could taper off them. Here's your goal: the longer you can delay your orgasm, the more intense it will be. So it isn't just a matter of satisfying your mate. This is the main reason some claim stoned sex is better, unlike drunk sex which can leave you unable to perform (brewer's droop). You enjoy exploring each other longer. And remember, oral isn't just one place. It's all over, paying particular attention to kissing, and TALK about what each of you like. Strange how people don't talk about sex when they're the ones doing it.