We have been together 2 years prior to our marrage March 23. 1990 we now have been married 17 years and a total of 19 years together. There is another woman who pertended to be my friend and they have been together, in that way. and it continues. He says he is not leaving me for her, she has 3 kids and they younger and he has raised up his kids and doe'nt want to reaise hers. It is just she is healther than me so in the bedroom she is more flexable so he enjoys it.. She at a good weight too. Love makes him blind so he does not see her true colors.. Dumb.
2007-08-24 23:39:59 · 12 answers · asked by sassybird20042000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We tried a 3 some w/ the 3 of us and it continued from there. She told me if I wanted it to STOP she said I would just have to say so and it would. But it did not. I am disabled for the rest of my life and am on ss disablity, so I can not excersize to lose weight or sit long enough to go back to school like her to better myself. Doctors say I will never work another day of my life.. My spine is deteareating genertive diease and so it is crumbling like cookies, so she has much more to offer him right now. I DO NOT WANT THE DIVORCE but he says he will not work at saving it.. He said he would take care of my needs ( but I am to not read anything into it but that) but now he says he does not think I could handle it cause I am clingy (w/ huggs) every chance I can. BULL We do not even sleep in same bedroom anymore it has been about 1 to 1 1/2 months since about 3-4 days after July 04.2007 Our daughter got married July 14th and we were not sleeping together then.. He kids are very upset w him
2007-08-25 00:07:39 · update #1
The brutal truth is people get married for their benefit not for their husband or wife's benefit. Now they want you to benefit too, but what is in it for them is primary.
You don't have anything to offer him because, you are fat, crippled, cannot work, and you are not good for sex. By trading up to a better model he can all of the above and because you are on SS the alimony will not be so much.
He is making a practical decision that is beneficial for him. Therefore, he will divorce you. He is a very kind and generous man. However, staying with you is a losing proposition. Only a fool will choose to lose when they can win.
2007-08-25 00:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After being through a divorce and having fought it at first, I think that once a person has reached the point of asking for a divorce- it has been desired for many months or years. My ex-husband asked for a divorce at one of the lowest points of my life, but I thought a few good talks might make him change his mind. I tried to convince him that he and I could still have what we had for so many years, but he was resolute.
What I am really saying is that you should talk frankly to him and be prepared for the worst, while you might discover the best. Don't spend too much of your life on this endeavor, because you will be relieved when the right resolution is reached. If it is meant to be, it will be- no matter what. If a love has died on one end, it will eventually rot out the other end. You will get over it, eventhough that feels a bit impossible right now. Time heals the wound; you will discover strengths you never knew you had. Be strong and do what is right for you!
2007-08-25 06:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by just help ducky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess , she told you she loved you more then anything and that your friendship was more important then the sex right?
God girl your living my life , tell him without the disability coming into it he either dumps her or he gets out and gives you 50 % of what your entitled to and then end it its not worth the pain trust me .
My husband and I live in the same house we have young kids and financially we can not afford to sell and move out right now it works for us because I have self control on my anger and hurt and my needs dont include him anymore.
Your better off out of it.
2007-08-25 07:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that if he wants a divoce give it to him, and when he comes crawling back, just tell him that he made his bed, now he has to lie in it.Once he has left you don't take him back, because he will only do it again. For marriage to work, there has to be trust on both ssides, and if there is not, what's the point in being together.
2007-08-25 06:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by malroymck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an important part in a realationship but as long as he gets it what is he bit*hin' about most married men don't even get it...Sounds like a prick to me and I would say he isn't worth it anyway
2007-08-25 06:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Megan H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he married you for sex, and is now trading you in on a younger model.
Par for the course.
The Rat
2007-08-25 06:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband may be crazy to leave you after he spent with you 17 years . he must be series if he want to ask you to divorce you because he have another women he must go ahead
2007-08-25 06:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Amgad Hogan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yu k now hes probably going with her who knows and who cares. the point is he wants devorce and i would let him go. you don't need soemone like that regardless of how many years its been its just washed under by now and hes out let him go and you be happy.
2007-08-28 22:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need the idiot, you need to give him the divorce and move on... let him go get what he wants you dont deserve this...
2007-08-25 08:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try putting some sense into hiss thick skull... if he still needs a divorce give it.... frankly you deserve someone better.. just dump him girl... he is not worth it..
2007-08-25 06:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by pondepika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋