I knew my ex husband was creeping and I was tired of games.. Well I got emotionally attatched to a friend that I fell in love with completely and planned on reelisting to same unit and doing the military life with and after the papers came through he decided he was in love with someone else and that I was not worth the wait I guess and gave her the ring he bought for me and recycled it. Ouch huh? Nothing physical was going on but emotioanally for two years I have taken care of this man. We sent gifts back and forth, emailed each other everyday, im each other, wrote letters and stayed in touch. His unit went back first and I guess he fell in love with the first girl that could meet his physical needs so that is that, but I can't seem to get over it. Why does it hurt so bad?
2007-08-24 19:54:25 · 9 answers · asked by kittykat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have an ex-husband you may have been in a very emotionally vulnerable state and kind of in a "rebound" mentality. You trusted too soon and made yourself too vulnerable. If he's married, for whatever reason, he's out of the picture, if for no other reason than legally unattainable. Sure it hurts and hurts BAD. But the die is cast and you have to move on. It's an old saying and I know you may not believe it for NOW, but time DOES heal wounds. Hang on and this too shall pass.
2007-08-24 20:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by ckswife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered marriage counseling? If i were in your position.. i would try every route possible. If you guys cant make it work.. can't be happy.. and you know that for sure! then i would go for divorce and see how things go with this guy. You say this other guy loves you and if he really does he will wait for you to make the right decision. also.. you have a little girl in the mix. You have to think about it.. not just for YOU but for her too. You guys are married for a reason. because at some point you guys thought you really loved eachother. When he realized it was a mistake to ask for a divorce doesn't that mean something? he probably thought at that moment he is an idiot and cant live without you. If he loves you he would do whatever it takes to make you smile and happy again. like i said.. try to find a resolution .. from every angle. if you realize its just not there then you have your answer babe. but this is a marriage your not just boyfriend and girlfriend. Take it seriously. If you work at fixing the problem then there is no regret and you can move on knowing you made the right choice :)
2016-05-17 09:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by ardell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one rule dont start a relationship unto you have closure on the first.
Learn to love yourself and respect yourself first before even thing of becoming emtionally involved with another person.
Then take it slowly very slowly
2007-08-24 19:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been hurt, you got your heart broken and you are grieving now. Grief has stages that you have to go through. Counseling may help you to get past this. Talking about it to someone who is a professional can give you more knowledge to get past this.
2007-08-24 20:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Betrayal always hurts.... the best revenge is living well though.... be glad you didn't actually marry someone that is that shallow and self centered..... It will take time but you really are better off.
2007-08-24 19:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. It won't hurt for long. Talk to other men. He was just a guy...
2007-08-24 19:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by rare2findd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What hurts is not his betrayal, but the realization of your folly.
2007-08-24 20:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and date some1 ull probably then forget it.
2007-08-24 19:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask to yourself.
2007-08-24 20:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by BLOWHOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋