My husband works a lot and when he comes home he's too tired to go out and never wants to go out on weekends. I want to go out with my single girlfriends to clubs and things but I was wondering if it was okay. A lot of the clubs they go to include a lot of dirty dancing and hooking up with strangers so i'm not so sure if I should go. Anyone have an opinion?
2007-08-24 19:49:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you would be okay with him doing the same thing, then there is no problem with you doing it. I often go out with friends, married as well as single, and if I am in a situation that you describe, I simply do not "hook up" or do any dirty dancing, because I would not like my husband to do it if the shoe was on the other foot. Does your husband know that you would like to do more than just sit at home all the time? Perhaps if you told him, he would be willing to go with you. I must admit though, a night out with the "girls", rather than with my husband all the time, is a lot of fun. I think as long as you keep to what you both believe is right within a marriage, you should be fine going out with them.
2007-08-25 04:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to go out with your girlfriends, but you need to monitor yourself. If you are doing something and it feels wrong, then you probably shouldn't do it. Now, a little dancing isn't bad, but if you are grinding up against a guy and feeling each other up, then that is a problem If you have a problem with the clubs they choose, try and see if you can make a compromise and find a club you can all go to that you would feel comfortable in.
2007-08-24 19:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to go out at night and have some social life , but be careful of where and whom you are hanging out with. Personally I won't go to clubs where there would be strip dance. The more you see that sort of things the more your mind would be polluted .Your husband is a hardworking man,I think you should spend more time with him instead. Good luck to you.
2007-08-24 20:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by ladybird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds like a bad idea. Maybe you could talk to your husband about maybe going out once in awhile and you can also have fun at home. Do movie and popcorn nights or order pizza and play games. My husband and I used to play killer games of Tetris! :) Go camping...in the backyard! Trust me...it's fun! Don't open yourself up to the single life. Far too many temptations.
2007-08-24 20:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY wife and I are seperated because of it. Because she has 3 kids and would leave me there to watch them. The issue wasn't trust, because I knew she would honor me as her husband anywhere she was, as a good wife should do, but she took me for granted, then it was a problem. She went out every-single-fricken-weekend, Friday nights. She'd stay overnight at a girlfriends house. I tried all that I can try, but she would rather keep her new-found fun with her girlfriends, then to lay low for a while and spend time with me and her kids. Do not take anything for granted. If your girlfriends want to subject themselves to guys who are a dime-a-dozen, let them. You honor your husbands needs and wishes. You took the vows, don't screw it up from some BS.
2007-08-24 20:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by Type0pisces 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to go out, does not mean you have to hook up with anyone, dirty dancing??? Did you and your husband go to clubs before marriage and now he is not available""?best thing you can do is talk with your husband, Is anyone else worth as much as he is too you??
2007-08-24 19:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason you can't go out and have a good time, as long as you are respectful and mindful of your marriage vows. My husband was never a party guy and I on the other hand, was hanging out as often as possible. My husband respects and encourages me to to go out once in a while to have a fun time. He trusts me and knows it only makes our relationship better - I do what I want, he gets his down time and we have stuff to talk about! Never hurt to have a good time.
2007-08-25 02:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by Empress1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone out lots and lots of times without hubby, but not with other single friends and definately not to bars where its a meat market.
That wouldn't be cool on your part, especially if you want to remain faithful to hubby. I mean why go to a place that may draw you in to that kind of lifestyle.
2007-08-24 19:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by ellen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband it okay with it and as long as your not looking to hook up with someone then yes you should be able to go out to. We all need a brake sometimes.
2007-08-24 20:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not go to clubs with out your husband. There are plenty of other places to go where you won't be tempted to commit adultery.
2007-08-24 19:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋