we have been married for 18 yrs we have two childern 15,17.about 3 months ago i went out and got drunk on whisky and verbely abused her ever since then she say she does not love me anymore this happened once before few yrs back.i am so sorry i hurt her i love her more than anything in the world .now she says she need her space now.she also she believes in marrage for life and wants to live like roomates and only have sex once a month,when we have sex it is not the same as before.i want this marrage to work i will never drink whisky again i am very depressed with out her love.if she lets me back into her life i will be the best husband she could ask for i truly mean this.pls help me what should i do?
2007-08-24 19:48:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Use reverse tactics. Don't be mean just be distant and unconcerned. Find something else to do. You are too needy, clingy and insecure and she knows it and is using it against you. You must turn the tables on her. Don't call after her, don't look for her, when she comes home hardly even notice. If you can hold out long enough, she will come around to find out why you are not the insecure one any more, she will become the insecure one. This really works if you do it right.
2007-08-24 19:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to realize that men and women are different. Women feel differently about sex than a man does. Sex for women is an emotional connection to the man. If she loses that connection, she isn't going to want to have sex.
In my opinion, moving to separate rooms is a horrible idea. I think it is impossible for a man and woman who have once been intimate with each other to live like roommates and live a "normal" productive life.
If I were in your shoes, I would seek marriage counseling. Here is a website that I have found that may be of some use.
GOOD LUCK :)
2007-08-25 02:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mark M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you do all the things you've mentioned and try and make it up to her then she will forgive you....buy her flowers or some other sort of surprise... tell her that you are sorry and that you love her....tell her how important she is to you.....most of all tell her you are an idiot and were just plain stupid and let her know you will try to be a good husband.
2007-08-25 02:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same way what are you guys thinking! How much stuff can we take. Well my best advise is go to counseling and you'll have to deal with the hurt if and/or until she over it. She probably loves you but one person can only take so much.
2007-08-25 02:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she will seek marriage counselling with you. She sounds like the woman we all want to be when the man we love starts verbally or physically abusing us. I've been the recipiant of both, and let me tell you if I was older when my partner started the verbal abuse, I would have reacted the same way, because I know it doesn't stop with one instance. Maybe in your case it will, but you need to seek help with her to convince her you are serious. Good luck.
2007-08-25 02:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by navy_brat913 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is hurt. If you truly love her and want her in your life, give her time. Keep providing reassurances and professing your love. Don't just say it...show it. Don't smother her with it, but just do some nice things that maybe you wouldn't normally do. But...give her time to heal.
2007-08-25 03:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get marriage counseling. If I am going to have just a roommate, that won't work. I want sex.
2007-08-25 07:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
court her again. give her flowers, the whole thing. make her love you again. show her that you are very sorry for what you have done - and DON'T DO THAT GETTING DRUNK THING AGAIN!
2007-08-25 03:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
apologize! keep saying I'm sorry and PROVE to her you will act better towards her.
2007-08-25 02:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by PresleyRenee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah ok....and once upon a time there were three bears...do you believe in fairy tales?
2007-08-25 02:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋