My husband and I have been married for almost a year. I am now 7months pregnant. We have been having sex before we got married. My question is how frequent should sex be? Sometimes, we just have it once a month- i mean wer'e still newly weds! He comes home and watches tv and sleeps/ Sometimes I give signs to him but he declines and says he's too tired from work. Recently , he said it's difficult bec. of my growing belly. This is so disappointing since usually men want it and the woman declines! To us, it's the opposite!
What should I do? Sometimes, I hate him for it and I don't talk with him. I don't think he's clueless but I want him to be romantic and fill my needs.
2007-08-24 19:10:18 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My God! You are seven months pregnant and big as a house. Of course he is not going to have sex with you. Get a vibrator until after you have the baby. Then if he doesn't fulfill your needs, find a lover. There will be plenty of opportunities and, if you are careful, you husband will never know.
2007-08-24 19:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds almost exactly like my husband and I - we didn't have sex for the last 6 months of my second pregnancy - my husband is very open about the fact that he is not a guy who thinks pregnancy is sexy (and yet he seems to want 2 more kids). It was very disheartening and made me feel terrible. Now that we have two kids, I have started to tell him that I am no longer interested (which after 2 kids is sometimes the truth) and it seems to make him more interested. It's been my experience that talking about it, often lead nowhere, even when I told him how worthless it makes me feel that he isn't interested - but acting like it was the last thing on my mind and voicing disinterest in HIM has made some difference. Normally we talk about everything and normally that would be my suggestion, but in my own experience this just seems to be the one thing that he doesn't get. As for your question on frequency - If my husband were to follow my direction, we'd still be having sex on a daily basis, but I'd settle for once every week or so. Good Luck!
2007-08-24 19:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by JVar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THINK POSITIVE, could be he is too tired of his work, probably he needs talks more than sex. Could be also because he loves u so much that he doesn't want to hurt u and the baby. You are having the first baby, aren't u?
For your information, there is no theory on how many times of sex a month should a newly weds make. It is a question on how HAPPY a marriage would be with or without sex.
LOVE him from the other side. Probably u can massage him, pampers him when he is tired of work, hear his stories, cook a very good food. For me, those things are better than wanting him to have sex. Go find out the problem and fix it. God bless
2007-08-24 19:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by anwar.tirta 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the reason your husband doesn't want to go is because he does not want to see his friend's wife without her hijab then I thinks that's okay. If it is only because she will not be wearing it this time and will in the future I don't get what the problem is. Your husband should speak to his friend about forcing his wife to wear hijab. Even a Muslim husband cannot force his Muslim wife to wear hijab, it is her choice. My husband is a Muslim and likes it when I wear hijab, which I only do when visiting his country and even then not all the time, but he would never even think about forcing me to wear it.
2016-05-17 09:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROTFLMAO At those such as Kelley Anne (omg you're big as a house, of course he doesn't want you). It's ok sweetie.....you just keep dieting and don't ever let yourself get knocked up.....because you know no man will ever want you then, /roll.
My husband and I had sex almost daily throughout my pregnancy, including the day of delivery. Not only was I Not *big as a house* but a LOT of men are attracted to pregnant women, as I found out. It is a sign of fertility, not fat, and a lot of men love that.
Regarding your question, it could be stress from work. It could be he is NOT attracted to pregnant women, or it could be that he feels he will hurt the baby. Talking with him is the only way to find out.
2007-08-24 19:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by navy_brat913 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be the new father blues coupled with work related stress is what is trigerring him off. U have a golden opportunity here to rest n recuperate until the first three months after delivery. Once u get back ur strength n he becomes used to being in the father mode, plan an exotic weekend to rekindle ur lost flame, till then just give him space, hubbies r thankful for that u see. All the best for being a great wife n mom.
2007-08-24 19:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. you are pregnant with hormones going crazy 2. you have a child in you and it doesn't necessarily mean that he's not attracted to you; It's a sign of respect to you and the baby. 3 even if he receives oral pleasure, he'd still might think its disrespectful although you want to pleas him; he has pride and doesn't want to give in to temptation of having an orgasm 4. a guy being tired like he is doesn't help his situation out any better. 5. he loves you and wants to show he is strong. 6. suggest going out and doing something fun and/or romantic. 7. wait another 2 months; this will all be over. 8. realize that you are lucky to have this guy.
2007-08-24 19:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by miguel f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to him without getting upset. Which may be hard since your pregnant. Tell him how you feel, dont hold back. Ask him to do the same. Men sometimes need a lot of coaxing to open up. I think women take it VERY personal when men turn them down. Simply because we always hear its supposed to be the other way around. Communication is very important in a marriage. I bet if you tell him (not hint) what you need, he will try his best to make you happy.
2007-08-24 19:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by celi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a mother of 3 and there are some men (soon-to-fathers) are simply afraid to have sex while their wife is pregnant because they are afraid of hurting the baby. Plus, it does get a little awkward the farther along that you are. However, you should not get upset with him. Instead, simply explain to him how you feel and that having sex will not hurt the baby.
2007-08-24 19:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well lets see you are 7 months pregnant,,,probably big as a house.... I'm sure he is stressed out with the prospect of being a father.... I'd say that is 2 reasons right there for him feeling less than in the mood.... this is not uncommon and you shouldn't be mad at him about it.
2007-08-24 19:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋