How do you deal with a spouse who doesn't communicate with you??

Question

I have tried to talk to him about it and it's like he ignores me so HELP ME please!! need advice...

Answer 1

hey
is this a recent thing or has it always been this way?
My husband was raised in a house with alot of kids and wasnt always given the opportunity to communicate everything that he was feeling, so he developed this habit in his marriage as well, I say try being patient with him, try to tell him that even if he thinks
what he is feeling isnt important it is absolutely important to you.

if things dont get better they can only get worse
you may even have to try counseling to try and get to the bottom of this.
communication problems can be fixed as long as you guys are willing to try to fix them.
good luck

Answer 2

Men in general have a harder time communicating. Ive learned with my marriage that my husband simply doesn't have a lot to say. If you are this upset, you need to have a talk with him, suggest seeing a therapist. Let him know how important it is to you and your marriage. If he cares about the marriage too, he should give it a try. I'm a firm believer in therapy. Its almost like having a referee.

Answer 3

This is becoming a common problem , mine was the same thats why we're seperated .

You cant force somebody to speak about problems if they dont want to and even if you do want to they will shut you out its annoying and frustrating.The biggest thing is 67% of men refuse to see they have problems in their marriage and expect that because their happy and content and dont like confrontations that the wife should feel the same .

Thats why we're women and their men , we're built differently biologically and emotionally and raised as such.

I wish I could give you the magical answer you so desperately want but the truth is there isnt 1.

Answer 4

If you mean 'talk' when you say 'communicate'. Then perhaps this is what you should tell your husband.

The word 'communicate' is too broad. And it can be easily misunderstood. People quite often communicate non-verbally, simply by looking at each other. Or they can communicate by touching each other.

I suggest you tell your husband that you'd like him to talk with you more. He may understand this request better than your request to communicate.

Answer 5

From personal experience i never had any success trying to get my x partner to communicate with me. I tried so many times to talk to him & unfortunately it was like talking to a brick wall! If they don't want to listen~~~they won't & there's nothing more you can really do about it. In my case nothing i tried worked, so i hope someone else might have some miraculous advice for you.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

Communicate about what just talk,you want your husband to set and talk to you about anything. The day you got married was also the day he don't have to talk to you again don't you know that. When your at a party you never see married couples standing next to each other talking. You much still be newlyweds for you to feel the way you do.

Answer 7

Ignore him, don't be mean just become distant and unconcerned. Don't call after him, don't look for him, find something else to do. When he comes home hardly even notice and just be busy doing something else. This is turning the tables on him. Just watch and see how well this works if you can hold out. You have to be strong and shine him on.

Answer 8

" it takes two people to make a relationship work"

Try talking to him and see why he does not want to talk. My marriage failed because of the same issue, we were both at fault.

If you are considering divorece it is not the solution to the problem, try counseling ask about his childhood some people have been taught that men do not talk about their problems.

I wish you the best and hopefully things work out for you.

Bill

Answer 9

Return the favor..... act like he is invisible for a while and see how he likes it...... then when he asks you what your problem is act like you are hearing a voice but can't figure out where it is coming from..... I'm sure he will like this even less....finally tell him now you know how I feel when I try and talk to you.... Childish I know but affective.

Answer 10

You need to divorce them. If they aren't willing to communicate with you then you don't have a marriage.