Me and my fiance have been together for 2 years, and we have lived together for 1 1/2 .Within the last 2 days, he has became so angry towards me that he becomes overwhelmed with rage and scares me. But then its like it never happens when i try to talk about it the next day. Last night he kicked me and shook my head, and tonight he grabbed my throat and threw me on the bed. I love him so much, i want to help him(if i can). He is about 12 years older than me. I just have no idea what to do. I mean I would leave, but I would want to help him with whatever is going on, but i dont know if i need to even talk around him anymore.
2007-08-24 19:02:43 · 9 answers · asked by daddyzgrl4u05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But what causes this rage in him. It has only started in the past 2 days. Is there a medical disorder besides abusive. I will leave if it continues!!!!!
2007-08-24 19:12:01 · update #1
YOU CAN'T HELP HIM!!!!!!! He has to help himself. GET AWAY FROM HIM BEFORE HE REALLY HURTS YOU!! You can do better.
2007-08-24 19:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by bored 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would be inclined to leave this man and to stop all plans for marriage. He has not only engaged in physical and mental abuse, he has openly shown clear signs of behavior that will lead to physical and mental abuse that will only get worse. YOU cannot help him by staying. It is his choice to become angry, to react to situations that are not an "emergency" situation. He is the one that has to be willing to change his behavior...YOU CANNOT do this for him. Seriously. If you stay with him after he has behaved in such a manner, you are condoning this behavior and it WILL continue. From the sound of it...if this has just recently happened, he may have had a inner/unconscious change of heart in regard to you two getting married. End this relationship and move on before you end up in the hospital, or worse, have children and see them be beaten or have them watch or hear Daddy beating Mom---over and over.
If it is a disorder...something that is a health issue...I would still leave...but be clear to exactly WHY I am leaving. But then again...will he freak out on you? It might be best to leave quickly and quietly--and clearly. He needs to see a doctor. You shouldn't take the chance of him exploding down the line...on a child or you. One more time could be enough. You can stay in contact with him, if you really want to still give him control over the situation--I don't know how scary this individual is...and not as a relationship any longer. He crossed the line. Even if it was a disorder/condition...this has made the behavior dangerous and it is usually not something that is treated with a "pill."
2007-08-25 02:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is overwhelmed with rage right now it would be best to quietly leave and stay with a relative or a friend. Leave a note or call him after you leave and explain to him that you do love him very much and you believed he needed space. Tell him you want to be with him and would like to come back but for your well being and his freedom your not willing to make the next step until he can figure out what is going on! You should offer to help in any way possible(except for coming home right now). Life is so precious it is not worth putting yourself in danger. Think about it do you want to die, and at the hands of someone you love so much? We all believe the ones we love will never hurt us but his erratic behavior is a reason to be wary and concerned!
2007-08-25 02:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by Audrey B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you stay where will this go? would you ever have children with him? can you imagine watching him hurt or kill your baby? can you imagine your little girl wondering whether she will get hurt if daddy sees her?
your mom feels the same way too. Leave. Tonight. And dont go back. You will find someone who deserves you. You are a beautiful daughter of God. Never forget that.
2007-08-25 02:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by niffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you like getting the sh*t kicked out of you, you need to leave now and call the cops.
If you do not do this there is a really good chance you will end up dead.
2007-08-25 02:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM NOW...DON'T WAIT FOR ANOTHER EPISODE AND HE KILLS YOU THEN WHAT... PACK UP AND LEAVE WHEN HE'S NOT HOME THAT WAY HE CAN'T HURT YOU FOR TRYING TO LEAVE. AND MAKE OUT AN INCIDENT REPORT AT YOUR LOCAL PRECIENT SO YOU HAVE SOMETHING ON PAPER IF HE COMES AFTER YOU. SORRY BUT, YOU DON'T NEED THE ABUSE AND WE DON'T NEED TO HEAR OF ANOTHER WOMAN BEING KILLED ON THE NEWS. SAVE YOURSELF HEADACHES AND PAINS. KEEP IT MOVING...YOU DESERVE ALOT BETTER.
2007-08-25 02:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Ruby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be physco stuff which i am not aware and he need s the doctor right away and get meds or hes doing drugs and they are affecting him like that. i am not sure but which ever you need to have him get a grip before he hurts you
2007-08-28 22:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what going on,is that you need to get out of this relationship,
it abuse it that simple, and time to proctect your self, this
is not the man for you, trust me it will get worst when you
get marry. get out now.
2007-08-25 02:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't be a fool......
get away NOW!!
he has destructive behaviour towards you
that won't just go away.....
go to a friend's, go to your family, go to a shelter, go to the POLICE-----
No one can help him but himself and that isn't going to happen real soon.......
LEAVE or he will hurt you badly.....
2007-08-25 02:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by LIzzz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋