My husband says he loves me lot and his moves towards me are good, except for money matters.But he doesnot allow me to touch his mobile.In suspecion of he having girl friends,I secretly browse his mobile.There were sms communications with two girls. It was a heartbreak for me.I think he meets them.One girl communicates as if they are couples.I also read one sms sent by him as "am going to divorse this girl" long ago. On browsing his office bag, found a girl's photo. I wanted to move away & discussed with my family secretly. But in view of the society & my sisters future, all advised me to divert my attentions to my career, studies, etc. Recently, after returning from my parents place on a short stay, I found photos of he and another girl(not the 1 mentioned above)on his mobile.The pic was taken in my room.Didn't show that I have seen the pic but confronted him,if he has girlfriends.He almost promises that he doesn't and says I am his all.am frustrated.no options either what should I do
2007-08-24 18:52:39 · 12 answers · asked by Ramya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its a lost case
2007-08-24 18:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I'm kinda in the same boat. when me and my girl split for a while she started dateing another man. She denied this when we got back together but was found out quickly. I was unemployed for a short while and during this time things were fine. As soon as I went back to work, the phone calls started and she was going to meet him on days while I was at work. The insanity of it all drove me to quiting my job because of the lack of trust. So there I was unemployed again. Same thing, while I wasn't working, no phone calls, no seeing him no nothing. I just started back to work 3 days ago, and the phone calls started again to and from the same guy and she has nothing to do tomorrow but she still set her alarm which is unlike her. The toughest part of this situation is that I love her more than I have ever loved before and I cant bare the thought of loseing her. The point of me saying all this is dont ever doubt yourself, if you know not in your heart but in your soul that you have done nothing wrong, trust your feelings and your instincts. If you feel something is up with your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, etc..... then unfortuneately for you, you are probably right. Heres my question, HOW DO WE LET GO??!!
2007-08-26 23:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by bear_28_77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I can believe that he says that.
It's not such a great stretch of the imagination to think that a cheater would also be a liar.
What you should do?
Get yourself tested for STD's.
Get a lawyer.
Get a divorce.
In that order.
2007-08-25 02:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already seen the proof with your own eyes. Cheaters don't tell on them selves. Either stay and let him keep breaking your heart and stop whining about it or divorce him like the dog he is, deserves.
2007-08-25 02:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer to get the divorce papers done for your husband to sign.
2007-08-25 06:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's not mince words and clutter this up with unnecessary arverbs, adjectives, nouns, articles or adverbs.
GET. GRIP. LEAVE.
2007-08-25 02:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he talking to these women behind your back, and you need
to confront him about the disrespect that he is showing
you/ time to do what is best for you. the signs are there
that he cheating on you. you show it with your own eyes
the other girl. pictures dont lie.
2007-08-25 02:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop snooping. If you really loved him you would let him have his fun. He is not hurting you and it does him a lot of good.
2007-08-25 02:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bust him out on this.... Tell him it doesn't appear that he only has eyes for you and ask him to explain all you've found.
2007-08-25 01:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than half the US population is female. You're concerned if he talks to any of of them other than yourself. Women would never leave the house if men were as suspicious as you.
2007-08-25 01:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋