im a freshman and have a few friends. they're new though, my old friends stabbed me in the back. i used to be considered evil and sadistic, and people respected me for that. now i want to change, it was just a phase i was going through. still, people fear me that i might beat them up. also, i have these girls that completely hate me for no reason. im small for my age, maybe smart, small eyes, big lips, and hideous nose. my friends insist that i'm pretty with my hair and cute face, i think differently. i dont think i can survive high school. what should i do? i mean, on the outside i'm tough. on the inside, im really scared but i cant talk about it. right now, i can only trust one of my friends with this. this may be hard to believe by my friends, but i think i have a small self esteem. what can i do?
2007-08-24
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Hadriana E
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You can't beat everyone up - and you're bright enough to notice that you don't want to do that anyway. Especially to girls you like!
You sound like a pretty visual person. Have you tried google.com? Search for images of famous people with the features you describe. They might just be famous anyway, you know. I used to think that one feature of mine was off-putting and a great excuse to be shy. Then I was in a good mood one day and noticed that Britney Spears also had that feature, and people seemed to like her anyway. I figured out that this wasn't why they liked her.
Is there some reason why you only respect people who threaten you? I can understand why you are wary. Really, try finding something more interesting to share with another person. Be selfish and find something you like, something that you can genuinely share with your friends and agree that you all love. Could be going to a concert together, a movie, a game. Be enthusiastic about something. OK, you're young and you don't think you are gorgeous, and so what?
Something is, and you can be the one to find it or hear it or write about it, and meet others to agree with or debate it with. So much more fun than your mirror. Like that's going to tell you anything original or new : ) Good luck.
2007-08-24 19:23:50
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answered by WomanWhoReads 5
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you recognize that you have been not very nice.
now people don't to be around you.
you can change any situation.
success is the best revenge.
become a better student. study hard.
soon you will be respected for your intellect.
be patient.
become more congenial.
smile.
be kind
it will take a little time but things can and will change.
when i was in jr. high i had a realty difficult time. i was the only black kid in my home room class. everybody teased me and called me names. but i was smarter than all of the other kids.
but i made.
you can too.
best wishes.
recognizing that you have been difficult is the first step to correcting the problem
2007-08-24 19:02:13
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answered by ramni222 6
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Its called self esteem for a reason. You can only get it from yourself. I mean it helps if you get attention and compliments from people but it all starts with you. High school isnt so hard when compared to the first 4 years on your own trust me.
2007-08-24 18:48:08
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answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7
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High School is the best years of you childhood life! Live it to the fullest! Don't be scared about it! It's totally fine! As for low self esteem and stuff, Just totally and 100% be yourself and make people want to be friends with you. Don't hide anything and don't hold back. Just be yourself and let people accept you for who you are. And if they don't like you for who you are, then they are just rude and you shouldn't want to be friends with those kinds of people anyway! So just be yourself and accept that you are you for who you are! Good Luck! :)
2007-08-24 18:55:09
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answered by Tabitha 4
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It seems like you have some friends that will be there for you for now. You will survive, I promise. All you need to do is be the new you, and think your perfect the way you are. Have a great time in high school! Enjoy it!!
2007-08-24 19:16:12
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answered by Anonymous
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Be who you're. Love what you do, do what you adore. Get the perfect coaching you are able to and attempt to rrememberthat you be counted, not the cliches, and so on. I hated HS, yet found out to administration and forget approximately with regards to the crap and the nasties. i've got confidence which you're already years forward in the words of your coaching. you're there to get the credit you're able to desire to get that degree and get directly to varsity. examine and notice if there are twin enrollments w/ a close-by community college or college. Take the training you want, which i've got confidence are ranges earlier than the the remainder of the student physique. I won't lie and say it will be ok, because of the fact babies could be sooo nasty. save your dignity and don't downplay your intelligence EVER!!!! have self belief in your self and be who you're!!!!
2016-10-03 05:14:07
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answered by ? 4
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I THINK YOU SHOULD START GIVING A **** OF WHAT PEOPLE THINK DO WHAT YOU WANT and if they think you are being weird than dont mind them whatever feels good to you is right ...sooner than later actions would talk more than words... and if thats not the case than ... what the hell? who are you trying to make happy yourself? or them? its high school after its done you will never see then again.. you ll probablu see less than half the ppl you knew .... if you really move on with your life.. so enjoy it be yourself
2007-08-24 18:52:41
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answered by Dr. Truth 3
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theres no right way to survive high school everyone deals it with it diff n if people dont like u then screw them just show that u changed n ppl will notice n if they still dont like u then forget about them my motto is either u like me or u hate me
2007-08-24 18:47:51
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answered by The Midnight Captain 4
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dude you just have to realize not everyone is gonna like you and you wont like them, and you cant change tht so you just gotta ignore dick heads and be original (by being th real you no matter who youre around.) and people will respect that.
2007-08-24 18:55:52
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answered by Anonymous
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i agree w stephanie_rue!! just be yoursef, as cheesy as it sounds, and treat others as you would want to be treated, without allowing yourself to be a doormat of course.
2007-08-24 18:58:48
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answered by ))))S(((( 5
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