how can i grow some balls, i cry off of stoopit stuff and i dont have balls,like, when im playing sports, people will do something like throw MY basketball somewhere and i cant get it back, and i wont do anything.
also, little kids from ages 6-12 taunt me, i could be walkin down the street and some kid will be like "lookit u you big bum, u aint shlt!" and i will say something like isnt it past his bedtime, and he will say isnt it my bedtime, and i will feel stoopid because i DO have a bedtime and i probably go to bed earlier than he does.
, its like ima joke, sorta like the movie "me. myself, and Irene"
just answer how i can get some backbone plz, dont say something like "dont let poeple push u around!" or, "tell those kids to kindly give u your ball back"
that doesnt help me at all
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2007-08-24 17:54:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
i agree with 0572. martial arts would be great for you. it's a confidence issue. i know because i was the same way. i was the guy in my high school that EVERYONE dumped on. my mother was over protective and tried to baby me my whole life and my father was an over bearing racist that thought it made him bigger to beat his wife and kids. it had gotten to the point where i had severe depression, low self esteem, i had even contemplated suicide. then one of my friends(my only friend at the time actually) turned me onto tai kwan do. it helped boost my respect for myself and gain my confidence back. most of all it taught me to assert myself to where i wouldn't be bullied but at the same time how NOT to fight unless it were necessary. i think it would work wonders for you, it did for me. just don't let it get to the point that i did. trust me it's not easy to overcome but it CAN be done.
2007-08-24 18:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're coming from. When i was younger people used to f*ck with me alot and i rarely did anything about it. Now that I'm 26 i dont really take sh*t from people anymore. At times i can actually be confrontational. It was a slow process though and i still feel inadequate sometimes. I really think it is from somewhere along the line losing confidence in yourself. Unfortunately I dont think there is a quick fix that will solve this. You have to keep trying to change it everyday. It will be hard. Martial arts would probably be a good idea or maybe even a group therapy.
2007-09-01 23:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Seamus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a backbone only mean that you have a mind to think for yourself just because someone is bad enough to kick sand in you face don't make you a chump or if another guy take your girlfriend away from you only mean that she was not for you anyway and why should you even have confrontations with any one younger than you, don't go to their level of thinking it seem like you are a smart person and one day they will be looking to you for help give it to them and then you will see that you was then and are now a better person than they keep up the good work and never let them see you sweat
2007-09-01 00:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by mr.pattersonfromkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on the armor of God. Look it up.
Make up your mind that butt kickin or not you are going to stop this. If some one can beat you up, get a big stick and sneak up behind them and smack them a good one across the shoulders. Careful not to do permanent damage. If they can't beat you up tell them to shut up and when they don't hit them as hard as you can in the nose. They will cry and won't be able to see you for a sec. At that point you own them. If they are brats grab them and drag them home to their fathers and tell him if this kid doesn't leave you alone you are going to be forced to hurt him. In other words if you want this to stop show some pride and take the whupping you are probably going to get. Each time you get better and they look stupider. Fight for your honor or you are worthless to yourself and God. A brave man only dies once, a coward dies many deaths. wish I had thought of that.
2007-08-30 13:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something to believe in, and stand up for it. Life is not about doing whatever the crowd wants so they will approve of you. It is about having the courage to believe and to do what is right. Find a mentor. Look to an older man in your family, or find one at church. Tell him you need a role model. Spend some time with him. Accept a task in your life that will challenge and stretch you. Avoid a complaining attiltude.
2007-08-30 23:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them as best you can while realizing that you'll not be a kid all your life. You're going through some bad times right now, but they will subside in years to come - and those years go fast.
2007-08-31 17:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Gym ,take martial arts classes ,it'll make you more confident in yourself .
But its your parents fault ,they're over protective probably ,thats why you are like that .
2007-08-25 01:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋