I'm SO SO sad and bummed out...?

Question

So just two days ago, I met this guy named Paul who was a cousin of a friend of mine. Paul was visiting my home town temporarily and he would always flirt with me and try to get touchy with me and although I don't really find him attractive, I was somewhat drawn towards him. Even friends would notice he would flirt with me but the first day he was here, he met my friend named Theresa and according to his cousin, my friend, "I guess he likes talking to her or something because he's always like oh is Theresa coming? " and he called her up and said we (the gang) should hang out. I think he has something for her. What is funny is that I found out all this stuff about Theresa today and now I'm just so sad because I felt like all the attention he gave me was nothing and that me being drawn to him is useless. I feel inferior now. I mean he would still call me too but it doesn't seem to be the same way he called Theresa.

Can someone analyze this for me?
Btw, he went back to Canada today..

Answer 1

I remember going through stuff like that too. I always felt like there was something wrong with me. Like the time me and my friend Carole were riding our bikes and some guys came up to talk to us. I tried to say something during the conversation, and one of them said, "We really want to talk to your friend. She's the prettier one." Okay, I thought, I'll just crawl over to the sewer and climb in. Guys can be very cruel.

Another time, when I was 16, I worked at a kids' camp. A guy named Mike worked there too, and he was so nice to me, and I really liked him. After about three days of being friends with me and me thinking wow, a nice guy finally likes me, he said to me, "I'm sorry I've been so nice to you and led you on. I shouldn't have let you think I like you because I have a girlfriend." Once again, I felt like a total loser. I'll never forget what I said back to him: "Okay." And then I walked away and never spoke to him again. That was one of the meanest things that ever happened to me, and I was so humiliated.

There is good news! The good news is that I learned to be careful about who I liked and I took my time getting to know guys, and I ended up marrying someone who loves me no matter what, and whose eyes light up every time I walk into the room. Hang in there!

I got what I deserved eventually, and I'm sure all the mean guys in the world get what's coming to them eventually too.