work in a federal prison. Well she is on light duty and is working alone in the computer lab. Well when I get off work at 8am I stop by and see her. Well, we were joking the other morning and she stuck out her tongue and I joked that her tongue was petite. Well she said "but I am a great kisser" man I didnt know how to respond to that. (she is married but miserable it seems. She has confided about how she has planned the divorce. They are pretty seperated now as far as money but they live together.and take care of their son she would leave but cant afford to now she said) well I really respect her and like her for more than looks. I wonder though is she just bored being alone or what. TOday she emailed me and asked if i was stopping by again. I just want your help in reading these signs and dont want to misread them i also have no intent in making a move just some advice thanks
2007-08-24 17:31:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like she does have her eye on you, but tread carefully, these are dangerous situations when there is no divorce finalized and the couple still resides together. Starting to date or becoming intimate could put you in the middle of a very messy, and sometimes dangerous situation. You could be hurt in more ways than one. If you like her a lot, and she likes you, remain friends until she is physically separated or divorced. Then go for it.
2007-08-24 17:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by NinjenWV 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are right she is bored. She is in a bad marriage and she enjoys flirting with you. What I would do if I were you is wait until she is divorced. Then you also have to consider dating a coworker because I never recommend that. After the affair is over, you will still have to see her at work. If you think a regular break-up is bad, you haven't seen anything until you date and break-up with a fellow worker.
2007-08-25 00:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by Julie H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. She is married, no matter how unhappy she says she is. If she put the time into her marriage that she is putting into flirting with you, she may be able to repair what is wrong with it. People who have affairs always have stories about their horrific marriage. Wait and see if a divorce happens. If it does then look into dating. If it doesn't...just tell her, you don't date married women. That is the respectful and moral thing to do.
2007-08-25 04:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until she is divorced. But what I believe. Never get involved with someone in the work place , cuz what happen if it doesnt work out. Plus she needs to work on her marrage or least give her some time to get on her feet and when she is ready , really ready than make her move. Good luck !
2007-08-25 01:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Esperanza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of respect for her child, don't do anything. She is a mom and needs to be thinking about her child before thinking about kissing some new guy.
I think she is probably lying to you about the situation with her spouse. If things were really that bad, she would have moved in with her parents. She is looking for a new man for security as far as somewhere to live,etc. before leaving her spouse.
Find someone else to date or be interested in. She sounds like a low-life to me.
2007-08-25 00:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by philosophy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say she probably likes you and not just because she needs the attention... but probably a little of that too... obviously (as it sounds you all ready know this) dont make a move until she is no longer living with the husband... but i dont agree with some of the others... even though she's still there that doesn't mean she's some sort of emotional wreck and she's not already 'over' the relationship
2007-08-25 00:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better be in control of the situation right now... I'm not saying that you ignore her but I think you know that there is a limit because she is still married and you have to respect their marriage in return.
Based on her actions, she definitely is flirting with you but don't take it for granted.
2007-08-25 00:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she's coming on to you, but is on the rebound as it is. She's probably looking for somebody to help keep that side of the bed warm but I wouldn't expect much else out of it. Be careful since you work with her. That could cause problems for you at work.
2007-08-25 01:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need to get involved in this scenerio? She can cry on her girlfriends shoulders about her bad marriage. If she ever gets that divorce, then maybe you could be friends but my advice would be "RUN!!!!"
2007-08-25 00:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oohhh, you're a smooth talker aren't you? "You've got a real petite tongue," I'm your friend with the uh,...gender identity crisis
2007-08-25 05:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋