Not sure what to do feeling so bad about things, just need some objective advice...?

Question

I am so bad about my life, like I'm such a loser because I haven't got things together yet. I'm 23 and I have been living with my husband for 4 years now. We moved away from home because we are from such a small town there are no jobs and no school. Since then we have moved so many times and it seems like nothing ever works out for us, anywhere we go. The first place we moved, my husband got laid off and couldn't find another job in town, so we had to move again. BTW he makes the money, I still haven't completed college, so if he doesn't have a good job, we can't make it. So we had to move again and I couldn't get into the college there (Im trying for the radiography program, but it was so competitive there was a 5 year waiting list!) so we moved somewhere that had a good college for me, and I got a good job here, but now my husband hurt his back at work and lost his job because he can't work it anymore after getting hurt, but he has a job offer in another city now that sounds...

promising but I don't know. I just don't want to get my hopes up about going somewhere and have it turn out badly. I don't know why things always turn out bad for us lol. My family is nagging at us to stop moving around and believe me I want to so I can finally complete college. On the bright side this city with the job offer has lots of colleges that I could go to but I'm just afraid something bad will happen.

Answer 1

Ever thought of it this way...

All the bad things happened for a reason.

It was a sign that you needed to keep trying. Moving until you found the right place for the both of you. I have a feeling this one is going to be a good location for you and your Husband.

Keep a stiff upper lip and give it a try... Your family will stick by your decision... they are just worried about you.

Good luck, faith

Answer 2

Sorry to hear about your ongoing problems. You are a working person, and so is your husband but you are both going through a crisis in life, please do not give up on your dreams, just complete them slower. It is so hard to live today, you young people have it so much harder than my generation with prices of homes and rentals so high. Perhaps you should stay where you are right now and try to have your husband get a job that he will not have to use his back until you finish your college plans. My advice would be is not to move too far from your families because they can offer you consolation and help when you really need it, and times are so unsure that you never know when you will need it. God Bless you both and fulfill your dreams. I hope your husbands back problems will be solved and that you have a beautiful life together from now on.

Answer 3

You have been brave enough to move up until now so what has changed. For one thing you have a lot more experience and should handle this move pretty easily. A very wealthy couple I know moved 8 times in the first few years of their marriage until the husband found the right niche. You will never know if you don't try.
By the way, his wife was also finishing her masters degree and went on to obtain her doctorate. So you see, it can be done.

Answer 4

You're not a loser. Unfortunately bad things happen to good people. You and your husband need to sit down together and discuss your life together. The two of you need to set some goals together, make a plan to save money, stay employed and move forward. We all hit rough patches in our lives - how we come out of them is what matters. You're still together and that's a lot. Others would have just given up.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Your family is going to share their opinions on how you are living your life for the rest of their life. Take it all with a grain of salt. You all are trying and trying to make the best of things. Don't let them bring you down. Since it sounds like you do not have children it is ok to move around right now. Keep focused on your goals and see them through.

Good luck!

Answer 7

i think it would be good to stop for one year and help your hubby with a job and that could do it for both of you. then you can focus and then after a year off go back and do what you need to if you have money if not wait abit. i mean heylive isn't all studying and on money. take care.

Answer 8

I KNOW SOMEONE IN THAT FIELD, SHE IS IN HER LAST SEMESTER AND SHE WORKS FULL TIME AT THE METHODIST HOSP. IN HOUSTON TX. THE PAY IS REALLY GREAT FOR A STUDENT ............... YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD HAVE SOME RESPONSIBILITY IN THIS SITUATION, TO MAKE SURE YOU GET TO FINISH COLLEGE, CAN'T HE SACRAFICE SOME IN THIS TOO? IN 5 YEARS ARE YOU STILL GOING TO BE MOVING AND YOU NOT FINISHED WITH COLLEGE? CHIDREN SOON? STAY AND GET YOUR COLLEGE FINISHED....YOUR PARENTS ARE TRYING TO HELP YOU, BEFORE YOU WIND UP WITH KIDS AND NO EDUCATION.......WORKING FOR $6.00 AN HOUR!..................best wishes

Answer 9

Im sorry! Heres a hug! *hugs* Hav a good day! =)