I have been wanting a baby for a while now. We already have kids. My husband didn't want another. He surprised me one day and said he did. I asked if he was sure (I don't want a kid w/ someone who doesn't). He was sure. Now, he says that was just to be nice. I think this is the meanest thing he could have done. I actually thought I might have another kid and I was really happy. What possible reason could he have for doing something so mean?
2007-08-24 16:48:44 · 10 answers · asked by nynasethi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to ask him. He may have started to re-think his current responsibilities. He may have started to think about how demanding babies can be. He might like the fact that you two can have more freedom now to be alone. There are alot of reasons, but the only person that can answer this question is your husband.
2007-08-24 17:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does this guy have a history of yanking your chain? Teasing you? Playing head games?
The bad thing is that he hasn't made up his mind... apparently still vascillating on it.
The good thing is that he is having some experience with kids as they are now. Babies are far more energy intensive.
No, you don't want to make a baby with a self-absorbed, immature git that already resents the current kids.
You can "call him out"... tell him if he doesn't want a baby to go get a vasectomy now, because you aren't doing any more hormones or stuff like that. It is all up to him whether he wants a kid. His response will be telling.
2007-08-25 01:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mind with his reason. My husband didn't want a baby either before we're married. Women, us, are special. Regardless The Almighty, it is us who decide whether we can have a baby or not. You're the one who aware of your fertile period. You're the one thinking about contraception. So it's pretty much your decision. Just get pregnant and say you're just being nice. haha!
2007-08-25 13:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband likes the idea of having a baby. but the reality of it is something totally different as you all already have children. here's an idea. maybe he can offer to baby sit or volunteer to help children. that may be just what he needs to satisfy his need for children. that way when he's done...he can give them back.
2007-08-25 00:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a mean thing to do...Have you tried asking him why he agreed to another child and now has changed his mind? Strange that he would agree in the first place just to be "nice".
2007-08-24 23:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To see if you loved him enough to have another child with him,....be mean back cook him his favorite dinner light some candles and tell him your pregnant,,better yet say we`re pregnant and see how he likes it ,,,tell him you were just trying to be nice later,,,,,HE IS an @sshole for what he did..,I hope you have 2 more,,,,,,,,,Goodnight..
2007-08-25 00:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Goodnight. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wanted to see what you would say or how you would react if he said yes. maybe he wanted to have sex with you and knew he would get it if he gave you what you wanted.maybe you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. and think about it if he doesnt want kids then he isnt worth being with. if he doesnt want what you want then he isnt the right one for you. good luck.
2007-08-25 00:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need his permission i don't get it, you have kids already.Are you one of those women who isn't happy unless they are pregnant. If you want a baby have one what's he going to do .
2007-08-25 00:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have no idea but i would not have one now there is something wrong with the picture and it sure does not involve you i think.
2007-08-28 22:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I guess he changed his mind. My husband did the same thing to me. :(
2007-08-25 20:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by anne_deezoff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋