My husband & I don't have sex very often anymore, Probably 1-2 times a month. He pleasures himself quite often, watching porn online (anywhere from once every couple days, to twice a day sometimes)
I asked him about it not very long ago & his response was that he is usually hornier at only certain times a day (always seems to be when I'm not home or asleep)
I mention us having sex to him like every other day, & he's not so much in thew mood most times.
Do you think it's because he's not very attracted to me anymore?
2007-08-24 16:29:44 · 23 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's wasting all his sexual energy on the porn. I think he should stop so he will have it for you.
Porn is okay to a point. But, he sounds addicted. Try scheduling a romantic vacation without the Internet.
2007-08-24 16:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by 354gr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 22:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a change... usually the wife complains that he wants it too much... but at any rate... you have to remember that men are generally stupid... I'm thinking that your husband is too busy getting pleasure from his hand than to get it from you. He has a serious addiction to internet porn and really needs to get it taken care of. I can see the appeal to it in a way if it's kept as a fantasy sort of thing. Girls in porn movies are willing to do a lot more weird crap than most real world women will do, but he's replacing his real world love with a fantasy and that's just wrong.
2007-08-24 22:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by rcoli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you have been interior the room, he wasn't watching porn -- a minimum of no longer for the meant purpose. So possibly (and that i'm giving him a huge earnings of the doubt here) he did no longer evaluate it "watching porn" via fact he became into watching some thing a co-worker suggested he watch. Like that complete 2 ladies a million Cup nonsense. Or he have been given to the information superhighway internet site and did no longer easily view a video. Porn isn't approximately "i could quite have this than the actual factor." it incredibly is purely a fascination, a interest it extremely is inherent. Why do females obsess approximately shoes? Why are females so jealous over the stupidest issues? Why do females experience the could desire to talk approximately each and every thing? it incredibly is purely stuff we are born with. i think of your concern isn't the porn however the incredibly stupid mendacity he did. i visit assist you realize that he has lied to you previously, indisputably. It became into some thing trivial and pointless, yet he lied. all of us do. "You look great in that gown." "particular, i won't be in a position to attend to pass out with your friends." It happens. particular, honesty is important. and you 2 have some artwork to do on your marriage via fact this affected you plenty. evaluate counseling for that. yet interior the grand scheme of issues, it could have been plenty, plenty worse. i think of in time it incredibly is going to fade -- or you will finally end up divorced.
2016-11-13 08:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by kujala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly you have to make him STOP watching the porn. Why? Because after watching , in his mind he is sure comparing from what he had watched and you. Tell him that the movie is not real, only for short pleasure. YOU are REAL, dear. Usually problem is lack of COMMUNICATION. Spend more intimate time with him, he needs you. LOVE him and talk to him, create romance environment. I'm sure he will change one day with your SINCERE LOVE.
2007-08-24 16:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by anwar.tirta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he could still be attracted to you. The thing is if he watches porn and has sex that way, of course he's not going to be horny so much, he takes care of that. Although he is being rather selfish, the thing to do if you want to have sex more often is to appeal to whatever it is that's turning him on watching bored actors going through their paces. Find something that turns him on. Wear something sexy underneath but don't make a big point in telling him about it, let him discover it on his own and blow his mind.
2007-08-24 16:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Or maybe there's some other issue with your sex life. Have you fallen into a rut, same thing every time? Are you a selfish or demanding lover? Is he selfish, but you don't put up with that?
Basically it can just be easier to go it alone instead of dealing with whatever the problem is. So you have to find that problem, and fix it.
2007-08-24 16:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be becomming a sex addict. You need to get him out of the house more before it gets worse. He will become dillusional about sex. Next thing you know he will want you to do the things he is watching. Watch the porn when he is not around and see if it would bother you. Then if its normal maybe suprise him and try it with him.
2007-08-24 16:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by momoftwo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it has anything to do with the way you look. Some men just can't seem to keep their hands off of themselves! I would much rather know he is watching porn than going out with other women!
2007-08-25 04:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by michelle A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure about these answers here but i would try and put the moves on him u know kiss him a little ,love on him and see where that goes but as far as him watching porn..well tell him how it makes u feel...just talk to him about it...the only thing u can do is be truthful and honest with him....i know just about every man does it but u have to talk to him and tell him how it makes u feel when he watches that stuff and him not wanting sex with u....good luck
2007-08-24 16:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋