im almost 15, going into 10th grade.
in 7th-8th grade, i was extremely close with one of my teachers. i told her everything, emailed her, she talked to my mom, i even went to her wedding. she helped me with math, cause i was always really bad at it, lol, and let me cut class and stay with her all the time. i counted on her and i felt like i could talk to her about anything. if i told her the most ridiculous thing, she would act like it was the most important thing shed ever heard.. we even had knicknames for each other.
anyway, we totally seperated when i went to high school last year. i sent her a birthday card, and she spelled my name wrong!! she doesnt even answer my emails anymore..
why is this happening????
she doesnt have kids, and isnt planning on it, so its not that.
2007-08-24 16:16:17 · 8 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the out of sight, out of mind theory does make sense.. but how can i get over it? every time i think of this, i end up getting so upset.. no one understands how terrible it feels.. im not close with my family or friends, and now shes not even there for me
2007-08-24 16:35:45 · update #1
First things first...you sound just like me. Whenever someone is acting differently, I tend to take it to heart...personally. But, I'm glad to tell you that when I finally get down to the bottom of things 9 times out of 10 it doesn't have anything to do with me...it usually has to do with the other person.
So, try not to take it personally, okay? It's very likely she has something going on that you're not aware of that's causing her stress. She could be stressed about her marriage, with work, a health issue, parent's health issues, death in the family, finances, etc. When people are on overload, they tend to shut down, reserving any energy they have left for themselves and what they're struggling with, so....
For now, hang in there and stay in touch with her. Above all, don't take it personally--I know it's hard not to. Just remember that you have a good relationship, tell her how much she means to you, and offer her the knowledge that you are there and thinking about her. She will come around.
2007-08-24 16:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a person takes interest in you because you are accessible. When you are no longer there, it is pretty much "out of sight, out of mind". It is unfortunate that this person has done this to you. Rest assured, there are plenty of folks in this world who know how to appreciate the kind of friendship that you have to offer. Keep trying and you will make some lifelong friends. It is obvious that you have a good heart. Don't ever let anyone steal that away from you. Don't go down to this woman's level ever. Steer clear of anyone else who seems like her. Lisa
2007-08-24 16:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can feel how you feel. Very sad and miserable. Coz she is your idol in LIFE, no one else is, then suddenly disappear. I know how you miss her. OK, I'm not giving you theories, but some tips who knows that can make you feel more comfortable. Maybe you don't find your teacher character in your home. FIND another idol out there. Find a girlfriend that can support each other. Find a chatting friend in the net. I'm sure you will go through it. YOU are still young, think of YOUR FUTURE. BE a SCIENTIST, she will one day be very PROUD of YOU. Don't disappoint her. We are here to support you also.
2007-08-24 17:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by anwar.tirta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you probably became too attached. You're moving on and she probably has lots of other students that need attention too. I remember that happening even in elementary school, when you'd see a favorite teacher a few years later and they couldn't even remember your name. Try not to take it personal. Its just busy lives and there's an old saying too "out of sight, out of mind." It is kind of true. It'll be okay, make new friends.
2007-08-24 16:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something happened, like her boss(i.e principal) or another school acciociate told them that she was crossing the line of the student teacher relationship. E-mail her one more time and simply ask her whay she has drifted. Hopefully you will get a reply.
2007-08-24 16:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by chika77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is her gentle way of telling you to move on. Cherish the memories... but accept the fact that you can never go back.
2007-08-24 16:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that she has a lot of things going on in her mind right now and she has to face them... if she's not answering ur emails.. doesn't mean she forgot u or waht... evryone needs time to spend to themselves so... i think she needs time... but still don't give up... still send her emails just to let her be reminded of... one of these days...she'll reply...
2007-08-24 16:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by skeptic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her. Maybe she's going through a crisis or smt.
2007-08-24 16:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋