I am looking for good "chat" buddies, but don't want to give the wrong impression
2007-08-24 15:47:21 · 28 answers · asked by Cindy A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have one right now and find that I'm learning a lot about a man's perspective on certain situations. I enjoy it and has find that it has even improved my marriage. I say as long as you let it be known what you want, go for it. I have also found that I can ask him questions that I wouldn't ask my husband because I know I would hurt his feelings, and since I don't know this guy personally, I find it easy to ask anything I want.
2007-08-24 15:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by lippy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Im 32 yrs old and had been flirting since the age of 15yrs old till the age of 22yrs old.Karma takes place and my married broke out.
Thats when i learn my lessons and experience alot about life and relationships.
Answering your question by telling you, there's always no room and possibility to have a good friend or 'buddies' online between guys and gals.
If you're married and need suggestions or to speak out to your hearts content, i suggest you can post anything here and talk to everyone instead of sticking to a male buddy online because you'll never know what he's up to and the suggestions or talks he given you are good or bad,correct or wrong.
Simplify it, its unhealthy.
The only way that you don't want to give them the wrong impression is how you handle it right from the start but nowsaday, people are so mean that they don't really care if you're attached or married.
So it's not not only the part you've done but it depends more on the other party hats in his mind on you.
Since you're married, trust your partner and tell him everything.
It might gain you more trust in you from your husband then he getting to know that you've choosen to speak to someone else then him which might lead you to no where at the end of the day.
2007-08-24 23:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Andy l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you even need to look for any chat person, much less a male chat partner, on line ? If you're married, use the time you would otherwise waste on the computer, talking to your husband. Spend the time with him, communicate with him instead. This will help you build a better relationship with him.
2007-08-24 22:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your situation. How do you and your husband live in marriage? Do you normally have male friends and he female friends? Not only that, how would you feel about him having female "chat buddies"? No one else in all the world can tell you what would be the appropriate thing to do in your marriage. But I would suggest that if you are going to pursue a male Internet friend, you may want to have a conversation with your hubby first. If you think he may have a negative reaction, you should probably rethink the whole thing anyway.
2007-08-24 22:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by jmdrt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They why do you specify that you are looking for male chat partners. If you are really just interested in having a buddy, what is wrong with a female?
2007-08-24 22:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by sassysam777 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that is exactly what I said 3 yrs ago! I just wanted a male chat buddy....then it turned into a whole lot more...couldn't help it, so many guys out there not like my husband...turned into dating and more...now I am HAPPILY divorced! lol What I am saying is you MAY say your just looking for a chat buddy but in reality there is OBVIOUSLY something wrong in your marriage for you to even want to seek outside male companionship...no matter what kind!
2007-08-25 00:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by tina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bad bad bad idea.
Unless you will be chatting to someone with your husband sitting next to you the ENTIRE time, this is a horrible idea.
A married woman chatting online to guys looks stupid.
2007-08-25 01:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by philosophy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not okay. I know. My boyfriend lives with me and chats with women on-line. He tells them things about himself that I thought were kind of special between us. It really hurts when you want to be the one getting his attention. Once someone gets hooked on-line though, there is really nothing you can do. Its up to you; but being hurt by this myself, I am about ready to end our relationship. If you and your husband are not communicating enough, turning an on-line male to chat with will not help, the distance between you will get bigger, eventually he will find out (unless you are up front and honest with him about it; have you asked him if its ok with him). Good luck. Remember cheating does not have to be sex, a mental connection who you share intimate thoughts and feelings with can be worse, especially if you are a person who likes to communicate and share.
2007-08-25 01:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it's just in the interest of chatting online, having a good conversation while at the same time keeping the friendship platonic, then why not?
2007-08-24 22:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Reverie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everything can start off innocently, you don't want to go there. What do you want to chat about? You need to talk to your husband. Chatting to another man can ultimately lead to emotional cheating which is as bad as physical cheating.
2007-08-24 23:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋