okay im 17 and my boyfrind is 18 I know young but not that young well n e ways do you think that Its impossible for us to raise a good child I luv him so much and I know he feels the same but does any one have any info about raising a child while where this young that will have a positive outcome and keep us together?
2007-08-24 15:46:45 · 9 answers · asked by mz starr 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
G-UNIT REPORTING TO ALPHA SQUAD WE GOT AN ILLEGAL COUPLE ONE IS 18 AND THE OTHER IS UNDER ADULT PEDO,PEDO G-UNIT OUT!
2007-08-24 17:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Veleno 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No child will keep you two together. Why would you want that to be the only reason he's around anyway? You're WAY too young to have a baby. I assume you're still in high school. You haven't even lived yet. If you have a baby now, think about all the things you'll never get to experience....being free to hang out with friends, party, be wild and free in college, etc. You have so much time to become a mother. Enjoy your life now. Once you have a baby, you can't get this time back. I think if you were to have a baby now, you'd regret it one day and the boyfriend would end up either leaving you and the baby or he would resent you for taking away his "freedom." Don't do it! Live first!
2007-08-24 23:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful that you and BF are totally in love and ready and willing to bring a child into the world and support it with all your might and ability.
Are u & BF living together and supporting yourselves and in a position that one of you can work while the other stays home and takes care of your baby?
And your current insurance will pay for everything involved in the pregnancy, pre-natal, birth, etc.
It's a very unfortunate fact of life in the US these days that if you don't have the financial means, or PLANS (which you could possibly have, or could possibly make) when you have a baby, especially at a young age............ no matter how much you love each other and your baby - it's a tough choice.
The current government (republicans) have made it impossible for the middle and lower class to operate on an open playing field. Big business and big government wins at every turn.
But I believe in you. and you believe in your child. And if that's your ultimate choice - then God bless you and your new family. I know you'll give them all the love you've got.
Best of luck!
2007-08-24 23:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that if you're hoping a child will keep you together, you've got some worries about your relationship.
In my opinion, having a child in order to preserve a relationship is a reaaaaaly BAD idea. Raising a child is a huge amount of work, demanding most of your energy, your time, and a lot of money. If you have a child, you'll only have a fraction of the time and energy for your boyfriend that you have now. You'll also have many more demands on you, and worries. You and your relationship need to be strong and dependable in order to support a child in the way the child needs. In the way the three of you, as a family, would need.
So what's the rush? If you and your boyfriend love each other, you've got plenty of time to enjoy each other, and get to a place, personally and financially in which you can support and love a child. If your relationship is not strong, odds are it won't bear the wieght of a child.
2007-08-24 23:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are already pregnant there isn't much choice left. You can't live on love and I hope your BF has a good job because you're going to need all the help you can get. If you are not pregnant ,then wait at least another 5 yrs. staying awake all night listening to a crying baby is not a good way to start off in a relationship. You never get ahead in life unless you have some savings put aside for a rainy day.
2007-08-24 22:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've heard all this before, but if you are truly in love, wait a few years until you're older and able to get married and take care of yourselves before you bring a baby into the picture. It's absolutely possible that you have met the person you will share the rest of your life with (I married my high school sweetheart years ago) so don't rush into the whole baby thing.
2007-08-24 22:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by darylsgirl1114 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think at that age mostly the grandparents have to raise em
2007-08-24 22:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are waaaaaaay too young sweetie.
2007-08-24 22:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to be self supporting FIRST. then, do whatever you want!!
2007-08-24 22:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋