why is it that you find someone you fall in love--once married or living together all those feelings go away--they get on your nerves farting and eatinglike a pig, taking dumps and being proud of it--I just don't get it--is there anyone out there with the same problem??
2007-08-24 15:10:16 · 17 answers · asked by beaq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
jeez well if you want to divorce your husband because he farts and eats like a pig then i don't think you're gonna find a guy out there for you!
2007-08-24 15:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by running free 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, being married has brought me as much happiness as frustration (and I'm sure my husband would say the same thing!) Sweetie, most men do that so just deal with it - leave matches in the bathroom so it doesn't stink after he gets out, if it's that bad. My husband isn't too bad with that, i.e., he doesn't get a laugh out of farts or burps but being a man, he does have his fair share (and then some) of both! If this is the stuff that makes you unhappy, perhaps you aren't with the right person - it's so insignificant that it shouldn't bother you so much if you truly loved him.
If you do truly love him, you could try to join him...see how he likes it.
2007-08-25 10:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by Empress1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and the happiest I've ever been! My husband may do things that I don't always enjoy or appreciate but I'm sure I do too. The man in the relationship may fart and be proud which annoys the woman. The woman may take too long getting ready which annoys the man. If your that annoyed over such trivial stuff, then you're not really that in love. I look at my husband every day and I am so thankful for him.
2007-08-24 22:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that a long relationship prior to marriage is a good way to make sure the "little things" don't get in the way of love.
Everyone does little things that bother their mate, however it is when we allow those little things to bother us, that they become issues.
In my opinion, an issue must be of a larger concern, and not about something trivial like how someone is eating.
I learned a long time ago not to sweat the small stuff. Nobody is perfect and yes I am very happy in marriage with the exception of a rotten in law or two, the hubby is good to me.
:)
2007-08-24 22:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is called "being really comfortable" with the other person. My ex boyfriend used to delight in farting right beside me. Burping was another big joy of his. Finally I just decided this guy is too much of a pig for me. He was a lawyer! Can you believe it? I dumped him and I told him why. Hopefully, he will grow up and not do the same with his next girlfriend.
2007-08-24 22:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just celebrated my 3rd anniversary (second marriage) this week and we are still very happy. The problem is when people get married they just stop putting any effort into the relationship. Couples must continue to put in an effort to keep the love there that they had in the beginning.
2007-08-24 22:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I usually don't recommend books because I hate it when people recommend them to me, but I honestly wish I could buy "Love & Respect" for every married (and engaged) person I know. So try and hear me out...
It states that a woman's driving need is to feel loved and when she feels loved she feels happy. A man's driving need is to feel respect and when he feels respected he is happy. When a woman feels unloved she acts out disrespectfully to her husband, and when a man feels disrespected he acts out unloving towards his wife and the crazy cycle begins.
If this is setting off any light bulbs for you read on...
"I wrote this book out of desperation that was turned into inspiration. As a pastor, I counseled married couples and could not solve their problems. The major problem I heard from wives was, "He doesn't love me." Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Many husbands fail to deliver. But as I kept studying Scripture and counseling couples, I finally saw the other half of the equation. Husbands weren't saying it much, but they were thinking, "She doesn't respect me." Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court (and that includes evangelical Christians).
As I wrestled with the problem, I finally saw a connection: without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love. Around and around it goes. I call it the Crazy Cycle - marital craziness that has thousands of couples in its grip."
I am not even half-ways through the book and workbook, and while my husband is not studying the material with me it has already worked miracles in my no-longer-failing marriage.
If you do believe in God I highly recommend this biblically based book. It's not a "religious freak" book or anything but it's nice to know that it is based on things in the bible and not just some theory or pop psychology book, and it's been a #1 seller for over 2 years now... it's working for thousands of couples!
2007-08-27 10:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya! no white picket fences here! no sign of this thing "happiness". I don't think it's marraiges per say but all long term relashonships. Too bad though cause it sounded good at the time
2007-08-24 23:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Marge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happy and married those are thing you just have to get use to once you are divorced.
2007-08-24 22:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Star 2 cuz Star 1 got suspended★ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You make your own happiness in life. Why let little habits annoy you so much. Look at the good qualities, don't dwell on the bad. Excentuate the positive in life.
2007-08-24 23:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋