sexually suggestive teacher...should I say something?

Question

There's this girl in my 6th period class (we used to be REALLY good friends). She's basically known as a ho at our school cuz of the way she dresses and talks these days. Well she's always flirting with our 6th period teacher (touching his arm and his knees, grabbing him by the sleeve, and winking at him).

At first the teacher did not like it and he kept telling her to sit down every time she got up to come to his desk. But that lasted only about a week. Now it's the 2nd week of school and he's not stopping her anymore. Maybe he's used to it or he likes her back? I saw them hug each other goodbye after the bell rang for school to end. Is this wrong? I don't want to tell because we're not that close anymore, but I still care for her cuz we used to be great friends. One time my friend caught her drinking from a water bottle and he asked her for a sip and she said yes! That's gross! Should I say anything to her or at all? I'm worried and scared. Our teacher is like 35; she's almost 17.

The water bottle thing is gross because she was drinking out of it first and he asked her for a sip and she let him drink out of the SAME bottle with his lips touching! That's swapping saliva...aka kissing...right?

Answer 1

thats gross, even if its illegal, the bigger problem is its disgusting

Answer 2

Omigod, you HAVE to tell someone. And not because I'm being a party pooper, or anything, but because 35+17=NO! Eeeww!!! I can't even believe that - I had a 6th Grade teacher that always put his hand on my knee when he came to my desk, and I reported him to a school counselor. It stopped almost immediatly, and the best part - it's totally confidential! Then, I had this other teacher that always looked down my shirts and made suggestive comments and winked at us. The horrible thing about that is that he was almost 70! So, I reported him, and he wasn't allowed to talk to the kids anymore. Good things come from being a good person. So do the right thing! Report him. Someone could get hurt. And remember - STAY ANONYMOUS. =D

Answer 3

If she is nearly 17, as a young woman there probably isn't much opposing view you could offer that she would listen to, esp. if indeed she might be involved with the instructor. Yet, if you feel something endure in fact inappropriate, or that she may be taken advantage of or unaware of her actions, then go to school administration and discuss with a counselor, vice-principal, principal, or whatever official might be designated to hear your concerns and act upon them...

Because you stated you do not feel that close anymore, she might resent direct confrontation from you, at least until such time as she becomes able to equate the concern with your prior close friendship.

Good luck, but bear in mind that much as you she too near adult age, you must use tact anytime you do discuss such concerns on any level, else more than likely she shall view your interference as mere jealously or some other illfounded concern. Above all, exhibit genuine concern should you ever approach her, and assure her of your continued support as a loyal friend.

Answer 4

You really should go talk to someone you trust... The behavior you are seeing is wrong. Maybe you and your friend can go together and talk about what you have seen. Approaching the girl would only create problems for you in school, since if she is what you say she is... she is probably popular and could make school quite hellish. If you are uncomfortable, then tell your parents, they should be able to set up a meeting to discuss your issue with school authority and provide the support you need. When it comes to inappropriate relationships, the heart and soul are the voices that says you already knew what you should do.

Answer 5

I think since your friend is almost seventeen you should keep quiet and it is apparent that she is well experienced and may be there really isn't anything but what is being observed going on because if there were something going on he would be more apt to hide what's going on and you could get a teacher in some serious trouble over the way a foolish girl is acting so be careful what you say unless you have proof of it.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

Most likely the teacher probably forgot that she is a minor. And he probably thinks she is attractive; but his mind must be all pacing right now. But the girl is a smut and even though you used to be cool wit her, shes still a smut. Tell her to stop what she's doing and if she doesnt thats on her. You cant stop people from doing what they want to do. But so far dont tell anyone because they teacher hasnt done much that you've seen to be in trouble and if you tell then he's going to think he hasnt done anything wrong and that can cost him his job.

Answer 7

You should say something to her first. Tell her this flirtation is very obvious and can only lead to bad things for both of them. If she denies it than point it out in front of everybody the next time it happens. This should really embarrass both of them and cause everything to stop.

I wouldn't advise you to tell any of the other teachers or counselors just yet because you really don't have much proof. Accusations can wreck a career and make your ex-friend an outcast. Just steer her back to the right direction before they both do something they'll regret.

Good luck friend!

Answer 8

This does not sound like a teacher problem. He should put a stop to it, but that is easy for me to say since I am not the one she is after. I am sure everyone can see what is going on and it could get him in trouble. I would think there is nothing you could say to her that would help, but at least you have recognized the problem and will be looking for ways to keep the teacher and the student out of trouble.

Answer 9

When the teenager initiates the flirtation, I don't think the emphasis should be placed on the teacher being in the wrong.
Let me rephrase that, it's wrong, period. But, not cause of the age thing (in this case), but rather, because of the authoritative position vs. a position of limited responsibility.
I will say this....if ANYTHING is to be said, it should be to the teenager. I hate teens that play victim when the **** hits the fan, and entrapment is NOT cool.

Answer 10

You can be real anonymous on this one, you can write a note to your school counselor and tell your concerns along with what you witnessed, without saying who you are.

I would definitely let this concern be known, this is not appropriate behavior by the teacher or the student.

Good Luck kid, be brave and do whats right for your friend.

Answer 11

Just ask her what's up & why the sudden "moves" on the teacher. Tell her you care about her, but other kids are beginning to notice it & are talking about her. Let her know you're concerned about her reputation & that you're afraid someone is going to "report" this behavior to the higher ups. You just wanted to "pre warn" her before it happened so she could do something about it before they did! If she doesn't act or care, see if the other kids are talking about it. If so, something just might be said to the authorities. This is not good behavior on the part of the teacher.