Does anyone have any close friends that are facing problems right now, that you wish you could help more than you do/have?
2007-08-24 14:54:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes. And from what I can see, you do , too?
It is awfully hard to accept ones own limitations. I know this sounds terribly cold and theoretical, but it is so true. As long as I can be sure I do all I can for them... Sometimes I have to admit I could have done more, and that's all the harder for them and for me. So I try & do my best. But there are things in this world that no amount of love or friendship can change, and all one can do is show compassion and understanding and just be there for them.
I once lost a very good friend through a long and painful illness. As soon as I learned I tried to be with him for as long as I could during the day. They wouldn't allow anybody in the ward at night who wasn't family. It was hard for him to breathe and during his last few days, he couldn't talk at all any more. I just sat there holding his hand. Tears are running down my cheeks now that I remember this, but they weren't then. ALthough all I wanted to do was crycrycrycrycry.
And sometimes I just had to get out. Leave. Breathe. I realized I was not the kind of superhuman I wanted to be. Not as strong as I wanted to be and not as courageous.
I needed to live, to remind to reassure myself of life out there and to breathe and to feel the cold air and listen to the silence of nature without someone struggling for breath. And I felt ashamed of being so selfish because I knew it wasn't going to last long.
When he died, I was at work. I had taken a week off to spend time with him, but had to return to the office to sign some papers. It was as if he had waited for that moment. And I felt like a coward. It felt as if I had let him down. And it took me a long time to accept that physically and psychologically I couldn't have done more without breaking myself. Not then.
He was 23.
2007-08-24 15:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by *W*anna.sambuco*P* 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have an aging father with whom I am very close. As things would have it I ended up moving away and sometimes feel guilty that I am not there with him. I also have a close friend who is having difficulty with brain trauma and I feel so helpless for her. Time has a way of twisting our trails .
2007-08-25 00:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, yes. I like to think I am a good friend who will do about anything for my friends but sometimes I feel like I don't do enough or don't do as much as I could.
2007-08-24 22:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do. One of my best friend's siblings was in a car accident and I can't be there to comfort her or the family...they live far away from me now.
I have been praying like crazy.
2007-08-26 13:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by White 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course..i wish i could be there for my best friend..who is struggling with her job..and family issues! It would be great to be able to help her out alot more!
2007-08-24 22:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by BooBell=) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a close girlfriend who just had brain surgery. Her husband is taking care of her while she recovers. I'm praying for her, but I feel like I should do more.
2007-08-24 22:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by tiedtoarainbow 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, all is well now. Thank God. Now that I said that something will probably go wrong.
2007-08-24 22:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by Angel of Death says F-IT! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...
2007-08-25 00:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by Valkyrie of Lor 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi wolfie..Sometimes there is nothing that can be done.... ;p
2007-08-24 23:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by No Drama for this Queen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do.
2007-08-24 22:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by NY PTK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋