How do I tell my wife that I want her to get breast implants?

Question

I have been married for 6 1/2 years and my attraction for my wife has diminished over the last 3 years. I am a self proclaimed "breast man". I like looking at women with larger, fuller breasts, not HUGE, but they are one of the first things I look at on women. My wife does not have small breasts but after 2 children and being 40 years old, things happen to womens bodies that neither the woman or her husband are real happy with. I have broached the subject in years past but mostly in a joking way. Now, I am more serious about it and really would like her to consider it, but I don't know how to say it without sounding mean or shallow. I love her and want to be attracted to her, but it is very difficult. I don't think she has ever considered it and am not sure that she will. I would like to hear from men in a similar situation and women who would tell me what they would say or how they would like this question posed to them in a nice way.

Answer 1

Let me see if i understand this YOU want your wife to get implants so YOU can be attracted to her again. YOU want to enjoy the sexual pleasures YOU will get from them. What about your wife what will she get from doing this for YOU besides her feelings hurt and being self conscience about her body. She will not let you see her undress now because of your insensitivity. My god man is that all you see when you look at your wife,this woman married you out of love what did you marry her for her boobs. You are putting way to much importance on boobs, is that a deal breaker for you. What would you do if your wife said your dick looks terrible is that from aging you need to do something about that so i can enjoy having sex with you again. I really don't think you know just how insensitive it sounds what you want her to do. As soon as you mention implants to her you won't have to say another word she will know why you want her to get them. I don't know your wife and i really don't know how she will take it,you see how everyone here feels about it,you sir have your priorities mixed up.

Answer 2

This is a delicate situation. If you really love your wife it shouldn't make a difference. Like if she lost a leg in a car accident would you leave her. Would you expect the same of her if you lost an arm or leg.
Reality is that you are being honest with yourself. Maybe you can tell her you heard of a guy that bought his wife a special gift of a breast implant, tummy tuck and face rejuvenation after she finished having kids. It was his way of saying thank you for letting your beautiful body do its job of mothering. Then let her know how it got you thinking of how exceptional it was of her to go through what she did and barely complained if at all. Then let her know that you would like to do the same thing for her...your treat. Make it loving and a special gift for her. Tell her to think about it and what ever she wants to do you will be there for her.
Don't use any negative comments that were used in your question. The last thing you want is for her to feel even more worse than she probably does (without telling you).
Good luck and remember to keep it all in a loving and caring way! And don't forget the pain and recovery time she will go through. You will need to be an exceptional husband during this time. Have fun and keep it all about her, not you!

Answer 3

How sad for you that all you see in women is plastic and silicon or saline... it is as well infantile, since the purpose of a breast is to produce milk for a baby... it has no other job..... you are one shallow dude.... and no, there is no way to tell her you want her to have a boob job. You would indeed reveal how truly shallow you are.

What would you say if she requested you have a large penis implant... that your penis is just too thin, and too short too.
Honestly, what would you think of her...

"Dear, there is something we have sorta been kidding about for quite some time, but I really need you to take this seriously.... I'd really just adore it if your penis were thicker, and longer. I really barely feel you inside when we are screwing.... sorta as if it were your little finger... I'm so hoping you will agree, and have this done. Look: I have even made arrangements for you to see a great urologist, and I have been saving the money for two years. I didn't want to say anything until I have enough saved. Well, now I do. Your appointment is Tuesday, at 1:00 for an evaluation.... ohhhh, I am so excited... When I look at guys, all I ever see is how well they fill their pants.....Now, I will soon get to look at you and see what I really want to see.... a bigger prick"

Good job, dude. You're a prince.

Answer 4

I am a woman and I would be furious! You've always known that someday your wife would not be as physically young as she was when you married her. What did you expect?! Gravity will have its way with you too. So...did you marry her for her breasts? Is this the only way you can find her attractive? Let me tell you...there is no way that you can ask this without sounding "mean and shallow", as you put it. There is no nice way to pose this question. Don't be so superficial. Love your wife for who she is...not how her breasts are shaped. Come on!

Answer 5

most important over everything else is communication. if you are not satisfied with an aspect of the relationship then it is a problem for both of you. if you tell her how you feel, you might be suprised by what she says. you wrote that "things happen that neither the husband or wife are happy with" so it could be that she isn't feeling like the sex goddess she once was either. don't say "i'm not as attracted to you as before" but put it in a gentle and loving way "honey i love you so much but i kind of miss your curvy bust sometimes...i just love to touch it and turn us both on...what do you think about..." the worst she can say is a flat-out no, and then at that point you guys should have a serious talk and maybe explore other options. like sexy lingerie, a push-up bra to 'boost' what's already there, herbal supplements, excersise.. also you can try to spice up the relationship generally (giving each other massages, using new sex toys, new positions/games/fantasies) maybe you will discover that you're not so unsatisified with what she's got. if you love her then you can find a way to get through this, good luck!

Answer 6

Why is it difficult to be attracted to her? Are her breasts the only thing you liked about her? Does she have a pretty face, look at that. What about buying her some lingerie, a corset to hold those puppies up, or a see through push up bra and some crotchless panties?


What are you going to do when you are 60 and EVERYTHING on you and her are sagging? Tell her to get a face lift?

Grow up old man. Aging is a beautiful process if you have an enlightened, realistic perspective.

Answer 7

Yeah, it's pretty hard to ask that without sounding mean or shallow, isn't it? "Honey, I'd like you to let someone slice open your body and insert foreign objects into it that may some day cause complications or illness because it would make it easier for me to get it up."

And looking down the road, since she will age, and there will be other effects of aging, what other cosmetic work will you be asking for? And what surgery will you be getting in order to stay permanently young?

I'm just thinking that you may want to consider looking at your own attitudes before you ask her to go under the knife.

Answer 8

WELL, I THINK ALL YOUNG GIRLS SHOULD READ THIS LETTER, IT WILL SHOW THEM WHAT MEN REALLY THINK AFTER 6 1/2 OF MARRIED LIFE, & TWO CHILDREN TO HAVE YOUR HUSBAND THINKING THAT ABOUT YOU.
ER HAVE YOU LOOKED AT YOUR WEDDING PHOTOS LATELY & THEN LOOKED IN A MIRROR. I WONDER WHAT SHE THINKS WHEN SHE SEES YOU NAKED, ITS A GOOD JOB ITS ONLY AGE SHE HAS TO DEAL WITH ( & YOU ) GOODNESS KNOWS WHAT YOU WOULD HAVE SAID IF SHE HAD BEEN ILL OR HAD A ACCIDENT.
OR MAYBE SHE WOULD NOW HAVE A NEW HUSBAND WHO LOVED HER FOR WHO SHE IS. I HOPE SHE READS YOUR POST. THEN YOU MAY FIND OUT HOW YOU HAVE FAIRED OVER THE YEARS,

Answer 9

First and foremost, remember this is her body, not yours, and you cannot request something of this of her. Even implying that you aren't attracted to her anymore because of her breasts is going to devastate her. If it was reversed on you, and she was no longer attracted to you because your 'johnson' wasn't big enough, how would you feel? What if all your hair fell out, how would you feel about her telling you to get that fixed?

It's one thing to support her decision, it's another to tell her you want it for you. This is her body. If she ever asks you what you would think about getting them, then that's your cue to speak up. Until then, say nothing. You will only hurt her feelings, deeply.

Answer 10

I'm sorry but i don't think you could pose this in a "nice way". You're most likely going to make your wife feel unattractive and unwanted. It being her body, she should be the one to consider and make the choice for herself, and if she wanted them, she probably would have mentioned it already.