2 young for sex?

Question

me and my bf want to have sex,where both virgins and where both ready i know im 14 but i feel older and most of my friends have had sex before? should i just keep him waiting for ages till im older or just do it? i dunno because everytime he tries it i push him away because i feel bad

Answer 1

You don't sound like your ready. Think about it. Everytime tome he tries, I push him away? that doesn't sound like someone that is ready for it- and this desicion is your and yours alone. Some retard off yahoo answers shouldn't play a deceiding life factor like this.

I want you to think about this. The first time you have sex, you will remeber that for the rest of your life, you will carry it with you, and you will never forget it. do you really think that by giving your virginity to your boyfriend is really the right thing? how long have you been together? he's pressuring you, and that doesn't sound like he loves you for you. And after you do it the first time- and if it's not what you wanted, or imagined it to be, it will make any futher sex you have "tainted." You have to be in a place mentally where you are comfortable with yourself. This IS A BIG desicion. if you waste it, it will forever haunt you, and the "next" guy and you will have problems from it. you won't be able to give your love "freely" to him, because you had hang up from the first guy that are not easily forgotten. you should remeber any religious/morale commitments you have made. You should be able to be comfortable about yourself the next day, no matter what happens. I mean, what if you find out that this guy had sex with you just to win a bet? It happened to my friend. really. i remeber another friend that after she did it, at like 15. her boyfriend told her that she "wasn't a good lay" and broke up with her. will you be able to handle that? how would you like it if another girl that didn't like you found out that you had a bad experience with sex and made fun of you and held it over your head..... talk to the women around you- most women's first times are TERRIBLE- in the back seat of some crappy car, in the woods, with a guy that ejaculated right after he got in in her and didn't want to do it anymore...these stories are just a little bit of what could happen. You want your first time to be special! no worries of getting caught or pregnant (which mean that you should wait until you moved out on your own, so you can handle the conquences of it yourself) you want to know how sex works, how to enjoy it, what is normal and what isn't. you should not be scared, or doing it for anyone other than for yourself. you should look in a mirror one last time before you take that plunge and ask yourself if you are really ready.God bles you

Answer 2

You should not feel bad for pushing him away. If that makes him mad then he's not good enough for you. You are still young and you should enjoy it and not complicate things with sex. You have plenty of time to do that down the road. Don't do it just because your friends have done it. It also might not be the best experience because the two of you are young and have no idea what you are doing. You really need to be totally comfortable with yourself and your relationship in every way before you can truly enjoy sex. So wait a while, practice manual and oral stimulation if you want, and you'll know when the time is right.

Answer 3

I am 23 years now and i broke my virinity 2 weeks ago and i really regret ever doing it.I wish i had someone to talk to, before doing it.Even at my age, i feel i made a terrible mistake.At 13, you are too too young.

I have never met you/seen you before but i really respect you,simply because, you are a virgin and i am not and more so, at 13 you are wise enough to post a question for the whole world to answer, which i wish i did.

After this guy broke my virginity;(something soo precious to me;something i have kept for all these years), he told me that, he doesn't like me, i am not his type anyway, and he just got out of a serious relationship so he is not ready for me right now, so i should go out there and find some other guy.

Always remember that there are two sides to everyone. A guy may be as sweet as honey but they can be very wicked and heartless as well. I don't want you to go through anything i have been through.

He is your bf, but if he really respects you ,then he should be willing to respect how you feel about it. This guy is also a virgin and he is looking to experiment how it feels like to have sex for the first time with you.Its an experiment! He will later go to his friends and brag and even cheer about how he took you.You can't let that happen. Guys never keep such things from their friends!They never keep it a secret! He feels its an achievement, so every friend of his must know.

He wants to feel like a man.After a man breaks a woman's virginity, it makes him feel like a man.And that is what your bf wants to feel.He want to be able to call himself a man. Don't let him use you.

Its not worth it , trust me.Please keep it.Its the only thing that sets you apart from other women.

Once its lost, you can never have it back again !

Answer 4

Oh My Goodness. Child please don't do that! Don't be one of the billion of people who start having sex at that young of an age! Be an individual! If you do have sex he might be happy that he had the experience and leave and go test the waters. I learned that if he really cares about you then make him wait! If he said I'm gone then keep looking for a better person. But if anything don't do anything because how would you feel having a baby at 14? I had one at 17 and please believe its not easy to do school and work and take care of a child! Wait as long as u can because there are still some days where i wish that I could have just waited!

Answer 5

Hi Sweetie,
Yes U R way to young 4 Sex! And U keep Pushing him away, before he doe's seduce u. U Feel Bad because it is r sub-
conscience telling u it's Wrong & U have Morals & Scruples that say so. I bet he's older than U & a guy in Puberty is a Prime Candidate to lure u into his wants, needs, by
not giving R feeling's. He will alway's make u feel BAD 4 not giving in! You don't have a
Boy Friend, U have Bad Mother ******* who
is Bad News & if he can't wait till r ready in a
year r 2, "Kick Him To The Curb" U know he
won't wait, he just wants into r pants! If you do give in, you'll Regret The Rest of R Life!
Because if he doesn't like it, & wants more he'll drop U like a Piece of Meat! I know, I've been there! PLEASE DON'T GIVE IN?
R feelings will be hurt, U'll feel stupid, ashamed, & disgraced! R TOO YOUNG!!!!!
I don't know how much more I can plead to U, they just want young girls like U for their to Notch on their Head Board!
Please do what r gut & heart have already told u! o.k? U r a smart girl & have too much class for him. Follow that instinct!
LOL, Diana D P.S. how u know he's virgin?

Answer 6

well, I think anyone under 18 is NOT ready and even then- many are not ready till they are much older. I wasn't ready till I was 23. well, actually, ... looking back on it I should have waited b/c that didn't work out and I wish I would have waited!
You are way too young no matter how mature you are. talk to him and tell him you are not and wont be ready for a long time. If he expects it then he doesn't respect you. the person you choose to have sex with SHOULD be someone you are planning on spending your life with and there is no way you can know that at your age.

Answer 7

Before I answer your question I want to state this; "In the end we all have to make our own decisions!!!" First of all, I think if you've been pushing him away maybe you yourself are not completely ready. Next, you should never feel like you have to because you feel bad. When the time is right it will be natural and you won't have second thoughts. Don't worry about what your friends are doing; they are not you. Lastly, if your bf really cares about you he will wait until you are fully ready to take that step. Always enjoy yourself no matter what you choose to do!

Answer 8

if you are pushing him away then u aren't ready. and don't let him make you do anything you don't feel comfortable doing, even if u love him.

try this: say sex is off limits. if he sticks around for a long time then he probably loves you for more than just your body.
wait until you feel ready and totally comfortable that you are with the right person.

the legal age for having sex is 16, so maybe wait a few years, think about it... and your friends might be exaggerating, don't have sex just to fit in with the crowd!

take your time, wait til you feel ready. and definitely talk about it with your boy. maybe ask an adult you trust, like a parent or a school councilor

Answer 9

At the age of 14, as much as you think you feel older, you are not quite ready to deal with the emotional reprecussions of having sex. To the females, sex is not just something you do. It is more emotional than you might think. Even as an adult it can complicate things. And have you considered birth control? Or even sexually transmitted diseases?? I would think long and hard before making such a big decision like that. If you need someone to talk to, just message me... I'll be happy to chat with you to be sure you are well enough informed.

Answer 10

This is something you only get one chance at, losing your virginity is a very special thing and should not be rushed. It should be with someone you want it to happen with, who you love and respect and they have the same feelings for you. This guy doesn't care about you honey, if he did he would respect your wishes and wait until your ready. Don't make a huge mistake you may regret for the rest of your life.