advice required...?

Question

well honestly speaking i am a decent guy.i really hate flirting.my problem is (may be because of films and ekta kapoor's serials) i dont have good opinion about any girl in this world.they have made me believe that girls are very filthy and frauds.they have made me think that, in this modern india no girl (after getting married) can be trusted about her fidelity.In many tv serials they show a girl falling in love with a man..marrying someother person...but then not giving much attention towards her husband and try to be very intimate with her ex-lover saying that she was and will be her good friend..isn't this a bad thing?i really dont know whether such things do happen in real life.my classmates(girls)who very friendly with me at the begining of my clg have suddenly started neglecting and underestimating me a lot after my poor performance in exams.then have now shifted their attention towards other boys who in their absence talk very badly about their character and their physique.if

those say that i talked very badly about them(girls)they easily believe and intentionally insult me by chatting with those guys and not even utter a single word with me when i am during the chat.But there is one thing ie whenever i am well dressed or whenever a situation happens in which it shows my financial status, they(girls)talk with me for one or the other reason.To be honest i am the only one in my class who dresses very well.Eventhough they are like this,"i unknowingly get very angry when anyone talks badly about them".I also know that all the girls will not be bad but the above said things have made me doubt every girl.I am sure that in future i cant have a happy married life bcoz of "doubting" attitude.On the other hand, my frnds talk very badly about each other's sisters in one's absence which has made me not to trust them or keep contact after getting married."I really have great respect for the women folk" .So plz give some advice so that i can have a peaceful life.

thanks everyone for your good advice...but some of you have really misunderstood me by concluding that i have a greater ego..i am not saying that "I am the Mr Perfect" but i said that "i am a decent guy", so it doesn't mean that i am flattering about myself!! When the issue of friends and such things come,i haven't done anything such that it would hurt anyone..even i am not "snobbish"..i always feel that money cannot get everything in life..I also mentioned that i have respect for girls and what my problem is very clearly..

Answer 1

Why are you giving details about your clothes? Are you expecting good girls to come to you by looking at your clothes?
All of this will go down the drain once you find the love of your life. Your perfect girl, your perfect love. There is such a thing. I used to think a little negatively (lazy, egoistic, insensitive, just doing enough to get by, etc.) about men too, but everything changed after my perfect guy. I know how he is and I wouldn't love him any less if he were a carpenter instead of a successful IIT graduate.
There is nothing to worry about. Concentrate on studies now and girls will follow you left and right. By then you will know who follows you for what. Make a good decision when it comes to your life partner. Do not rush and take time to observe how helpful a girl is to others. Watch how she treats different kinds of people and people of different age ranges, look at how angry she gets, know about her belief in god, see how much she loves her parents, etc. There are tons of things to look for in a girl.
One more piece of advice...please do not watch serials. They will ruin your mind. Again, simply study and you won't have much to worry about.

Answer 2

it always happens in the college days or offices when there is ek anar and sau bimar type of a thing.and where there is a compition it is bound to happen ,.My advise to u is u avoid them ,ignore them totally and make some other friends and try to be an introvert person rather than talking too much.Ignoring some body is the best way to insult some body without saying a word,and yes as far as girls are concern its all ekta kapoor to be blamed in my opinion for showing such things in her serials and we all should ban her

Answer 3

U asked The same Qn again......Here is my same answer.....

I think u have n xtreme degree of Superiority complex....

From the above Qn, I got ur vague pic....as..


1)U have unrealistically high expectations in goals and achievements for yourself and others

2)U have exaggeratedly positive opinion of ur worth and abilities,

3)U 've a tendency to project ur feelings onto others



U dresses well with the intension of drawing attention of others,but may be bcoz of other elements of ur behavior or the isolated character derived from this superiority itself , u can't present urself well or catch attention of others(esplly, girls').

Then U loses confidence,But the same superiority element in u forces u to find fault in others...that's what happening here....May the mentioned TV -serials r affecting u badly...

Try to look into urself...Be frank to the ppl around u...Think that u r just like others ...with some good & evil characters...

Answer 4

TV serials borrow ideas from society but sensationalize them for viewer's sake and popularity.Thus they don't really project the realities of a society.Similarly,people gossip but are not serious about what they say about others.Take all these things lightly.It's a way of life for some people. Real life is much better than shown in those serials.

Answer 5

Fact is there are people of the opposite sex especially made for you. A lot of women are deceptive to some degree in the ways you mentioned however most are not that bad. You have to find a woman you feel good about when you meet her and then if she supports everything about who you are and you do the same for her you found what your looking for

Answer 6

Not all girls are bad, and not all girls are like the ones you watch on tv. Thats why tv is fictional. People like drama, which is why they show that crap. With some girls they like the chase but when they catch it, they dont want it anymore. Its the excitement of the chase and the game. There's some really good girls out there who have their heads on straight and are ignored because of people's perception of what someone should look like (ex. Model/Actress). Its like gardening, you have to pull the weeds to find the roses underneath. Good luck! :)

Answer 7

You are sufering from complicated ego problems In the same breath you feel superior and inferior.Cut short on your imaginations.No girl would like to get the stamp of a flirt.Dont blame serials.There is a off button on your TV.Use it if you dont like them.
Your split personality will take you a long way to danger.

Answer 8

who start the sentence with:' well honstly speaking... 'is a lier.do you know the saying : so many countries,so many customs.what you understand?if you are so decent as you say then why you don't have real friends, cause you are the only decent person in the world?try to see inside yourself first then judge others.

Answer 9

Don't watch Ekta kapoor's serial more.

Answer 10

Do what your conscious allow you to do , don't give ears to others