I just graduated High School. All of my friends are moving off to the colleges and universities of their choice, and because of some poor decisions made by me in High School, I'm stuck here, going to a local community college and then transferring.
How do I get over this mix of jealousy and anger at myself for not being proactive and getting into a good college?
2007-08-24 09:55:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Just know that you're paying a lot less than your buddies are, and still getting and finish the same courses they are. Your first 2 years, no matter what college, are to finish up your GE's and prereqs for your major of choice. So when you do transfer, you'll start right off at your upper divs and you wont' be in as much debt as your friends.
As for getting over the hump and dealing with going to CC, well, just know that you reap what you sow...just don't let it get too you and try to focus on classes.
Lots of students who do get into good colleges opt to go to community college and then transfering, because it's a lot cheaper. So don't think of community college as a place for rejects and idiots. Good luck.
2007-08-24 10:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by teknique 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 06:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by fireman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you will not have near the expense at the community college for humanities such as English, Art, History, and Physical Ed. You can cushion your final GPA by getting the core humanities classes out of the way with the support of being at home. The statistics of the college freshman that tank their first year of school because they 'go away' and party are staggering and very scary. You can spend your first year or two at the local college. You can work your hind end off and avoid the entire party scene. Then transfer if you decide that is what you want to do.
If you are really the jealous, go visit your friends a couple of time through out the quarter. Keep in mind you maybe more successful in the long run. Your friends, at least a few of them, will probably end up back in community college with you anyway. They will have far more invested for the same degree anyway.
I do sympathize with you but you do need to focus on your education and your future goals.
Good luck and congrats for going to college in the first place!
2007-09-01 06:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Shana N 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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How do I get over the negative community college stigma?
I just graduated High School. All of my friends are moving off to the colleges and universities of their choice, and because of some poor decisions made by me in High School, I'm stuck here, going to a local community college and then transferring.
How do I get over this mix of jealousy and...
2015-08-07 23:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to a community college first and then transferred over to CSUF. There is absolutely nothing wrong with going to a CC. You will still get your bachelor's degree from a university, and no one will know that's what you did. Your best bet is to go to a CC with a transfer agreement to the 4-year college that you want to go to. That way all of your credits will transfer. Think of it this way, you will get the same degree as your friends, but you won't graduate nearly as deep in debt as they will! CC is so much cheaper than a 4 year school. You are actually making the smarter choice (even though it was forced on you). Just do well in your classes and get into that 4-year school that you want. Good luck!
2007-08-24 10:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by jml167 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
By focusing your efforts on your studies, taking a pass on the parties, and getting outstanding grades in the community college, so that you can transfer to any of the colleges or universities that you want to attend.
You've learned that your actions have consequences. Some people learn this easily, some learn it the hard way. Hopefully the lesson will stick - it applies in a lot more ways than just what college you attend.
2007-08-24 10:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Remember that where you start college isn't nearly as important as where you finish it. Get good grades in the community college, put a lot of thought into where you're going to apply (more than one and include safeties) , really go after getting accepted there, and graduate with less debt but the same value of degree as if you had gone there all along.
It worked great for me.
2007-08-24 11:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by sweet byrd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to focus on your goals, which includes transferring. In order to transfer, you must do very well at your current school. In order to do well, you have to focus on your classwork, and that's going to take a positive attitude on your part.
So take a deep breath, and exhale. Let the past go. Focus on the moment, on the present. You are where you are, and it's not your first choice, but if you do well there, you could go to bloody Harvard if you wanted to.
Try to make the most out of your current school. Join some clubs, meet other students, study hard, take interesting classes, make connections with professors that you like. All this will make your current experience more enjoyable, and also make you a more attractive transfer candidate.
Good luck.
2007-08-24 10:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by RoaringMice 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
work hard, get a 4.0, and think about how much money you are saving by going to CC for 2 years. that ought to do it.
the point of CCs is to get you into a 4 year college...so don't feel too badly. but remember that your own behavior got you there, and your own behavior can get you out.
2007-08-24 10:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by coquinegra 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You don't "get over it" - you move past it.
Get to work and then transfer to a college if that's what is going to make you feel better. It's never too late to make changes.
Good luck.
2007-08-24 10:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by MARY N 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋