I will not be able to have a birth partner/coach for when I go into labor (husband deployed last month for 18 months, parents are in nursing home, no friends close by, don't know many people where I just moved to, can't afford a doula, etc).
I am thinking of just having a c-section instead of having to go through labor alone.
Has anyone on here had a c-section by choice without "needing" one?
Has anyone on here given birth without a birth partner/coach?
What are your experiences?
Just curious.
2007-08-24 09:52:31 · 13 answers · asked by twiztidpenguingrl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Do whatever you think is best for YOU and the baby. With your disorders, I don't know if a regular birth would be the best idea anyways-- no matter what the doctors say-- having a severe panic attack or blacking out would not be a good thing in labor, plus with anxiety your blood pressure would be way up, and if you had so much anxiety that you couldn't concentrate to push, that wouldn't be good.
But, if you feel you can do it, go for it.
If you try and then you can't do it for whatever reason, the worst that will happen is you get the c-section you were considering in the first place.
Pay attention to the other positve comments on here. :-)
Don't pay attention to the negative. (Like the doodlebug b*tch). They don't know your situation.
2007-08-26 05:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Nosaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will do just fine ALL by yourself :) You'll be able to drive yourself to the hospital when you go into labor, if NOT, call a taxi. When you get there, the L&D nurses will take great care of you. In L&D, there is a 1nurse to 2patient ratio. So, your nurse will be available almost all of the time. If she isn't, you still have a call button and another nurse will come in to check on you. There are not going to leave you all alone. Let them know that your husband has been deployed and you're scared, nervous, and anxious. Trust me, others have been through the same situation. Two or three days later, you'll be released and you'll have this bundle of joy to take home.
I had a C-section, it wasn't too bad. I took pain meds while in the hospital and when I was released. After 5 days, I was O.K.
Are there any military 'clubs, groups, or organizations' that can help you?
Good luck...you'll do great.
2007-08-24 10:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I havent given birth YET, (I am due today... actually... ) but, i will say that i do understand that you don't want to go thru labor alone... because i know how scary that could be... but I don't think you should sacrifice a vaginal birth because of it. A c-section is major surgery, with lots of risks and scars and not to mention the fact that you will most likely have a c-section for all subsequent deliveries.
What I would plan on if i was you to just think super positive about the whole thing. Think about your husband and how much you love him and he loves you and the baby. Get an epidural...... Make friends with the nurses at the hospital... go in and take a tour of the maternity ward and meet some of the hospitals. I'm sure that they will be very comforting when you are in labor.
Good luck to you, and congratulations also!
2007-08-24 10:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by ishyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many doulas and midwives work on a sliding scale, so call around and see what you can work out.
I don't think your doc will approve a choice C-section, they don't do that much any more. Plus, evidence is coming out that C-sections aren't really that good for babies--the stimulation and pressure of traveling through the birth canal is actually good for them.
Additionally, the time AFTER birth is harder than the birth itself (and I'm someone who had a VERY rough first delivery). A C-section will put you out of commission and in a lot of unnecessary pain when you'll be trying to deal with a baby with lots of needs. Trust me, you'll want to be at the top of your game, not recovering from surgery.
Try to make some friends in your new place. If you're on or near a military base, there are lots of services you can access and groups you can join. Find a mother's group in your area, join a church or club. Be proactive in establishing a community for yourself before the baby comes--you'll need it!
2007-08-24 10:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by stoneinthestream 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
C-sections are major surgery and carry with them risks- they are more dangerous than natural birth under normal circumstances! If your only reason for having one is because you won't have a support person during labor, this is not a good choice. Your recovery after a c-section will be longer and much more painful and you will be in big trouble having a newborn and no one around to help you with him/her after a c-section.
2007-08-24 09:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being military is always harder then normal life. Don't choose to opt for a c-sections it is a major surgery and with nobody to help it will be twice as hard. see if you can meet other wife who are in your hubby's platoon. or if push comes to worst your nurse/ doctors are the ones actually guiding you through it. I didn't take any birthing classes. so I had my nurses there to support me through it and my hubby did what he was told. Is there any family on his side that would come out for a week or so???Best of luck and good wishes!
2007-08-24 10:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by mother of twin girls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is alot more dangerous to have a c- section and harder to care for your baby after. That would be the wrong move on your part because you will need someone to help you do everything it is harder to move around. There ar alot more risk to the baby they don't get all the fluid out of there lungs with a c-section. Just have a natural delivery it is easier to heal from and better for the baby.
2007-08-24 10:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a c-section... not really by choice. i was induced on a monday.. didnt work... went back in wednesday.. got induced again.. but i never even dialated to a pinky tip. the doctor came in and told me that i would have to have a c-section. i started crying!! i was terrified. then i asked him.. .lol.. could you wait to put the cathider (sp)in until i got medication. and they allowed that. it wasnt as bad as i thought it was. when they gave the shot in the back.. it actually was like a pinch. and then you become numb. the nurses were great. they were there comforting me. sitting above my head. holding my hand... (they are left tingley from the medication.. which is a weird feeling). and i got to see my little girl when i was finished. honestly though... if you are able to have her naturally talk to your doctor... or the nurses at the hospital you plan to have your child at... im sure they are great people... and alot of nurses would love to be on your side and holding your hand and coach you along.
2007-08-24 10:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by staryeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't do C-sections just because you want one! Do you not understand it's more dangerous to ou and the baby? You'll do just fine without a coach, women never used to have them!
2007-08-24 09:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you dont need a couch i went threw it without one and i did just fine u have nurses in there and the doc they will be the ones to lead you threw the whole thing neways good luck n congrats
2007-08-24 09:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by **Mami of 2 Girls** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋