I dont know what to do please help he is only suppose to be my friend?

Question

We all probably have had this a million times but. I met a guy online 3 years ago and we have talked very open and freely since then I knew he was married and he knew I was in a bad relationship we were able to talk. Well very recently I got a phone call saying he wasnt gonna be around for awhile due to changing jobs. Then one night I was sitting here and his wife pops in and we talked well we decide to get together the next day to meet in person and since then we have done a few things together. Well this is where my problems start since is job has taken him away from home is wife has been pushing him away and I see this for myself right now he needs us to be strong for him so he can make it though this all so I have been on the phone day and night talking about everything then last night he tells me I have a confession and he says I am falling in LOVE with you and to be honest I am also the only thing he is to his wife is a paycheck! I really dont know what to do I really love him

Answer 1

he's still married....tell him to call you 1 year after his divorce and go from there

Answer 2

If he is only a friend, then tell that. If you really love him and want a relationship then you need to remember he is married and would be hurting another person,(maybe even kids). If you want to be with him then I would say have him get the divorce, then after a time see if you still care. Some times it's to easy to have an affair and blame the wife for everything. I always say "Unless you live under the same roof as the couple, you don't know what happens behind closed doors." Maybe he is the one pushing his wife away, because he wants to have an affair. Don't believe everything you hear.

Answer 3

I think you need to suggest to the two of them to seek marriage counseling and from there set back and see what happens. He could be seeking you out because he is unhappy with his present life or he could just have poor character and maybe there are more then one of you he has out there. Are you friends with his wife? Does she know any of this? People often think the grass is greener on the other side when they have problems. When in fact, it is just the same shade of green. Don't put yourself in the position to be the reason he leaves his wife. If he leaves, he should leave because he decides she doesn't met his needs not because he has temptation on the the other side.

Answer 4

i knew you was in love with him as soon as i read 'my friend'. you are in for a rude awakening,or going in to a living hell if you dont get your running shoes on as soon as yesterday!!!married man dont need female friends to talk to,thats one of his spouse qualities, baby girl are you willing to go thru the whole ;"im leaving my wife thing" and then after that one the "i will talk to her tomorrow" and so on and so on? i dont know how old are you ,but i think you should get away from the comp. and the phone. there is life out there, you know? also you wouldnt like to be in his wife position,you lend it an ear but it is not up to you to decide who is best for whom. that was and still is a marriage in which your involvement is causing doubts and very soon to see confrontacions. be the outmost,gracious and caring adult and head to the nearest exit ,if they are to break up or eventually divorce,dont let yourself be part of it,by the way i dont think this scumbag loves you and neither you are the first one who he talks to over a period of time on line!!! good luck to you!!!

Answer 5

Stop! He's married.