Well, I planned on getting pregnant for like 5 months. Then we finally started trying and got pregnant on the first cycle of trying. But I miscarried that baby at 5 weeks along. Now we are trying again. But for some reason I have no desire to look for baby names right now. Well, before I miscarried we had come up with the perfect names for a boy and a girl- Benjamin Allen and Evelyn Christine. I'm not sure if I will still want to use those or not, but I still really like them now. So would it be okay to use those names for our new baby, even though they were meant for the baby we lost, if they still feel right when the new baby is born?
2007-08-24 09:46:50 · 20 answers · asked by mommyem 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
It depends ... how strongly do you associate those names with your first pregnancy?
No matter how much you love the names, if you think of your lost pregnancy every time you talk to/about your new baby, it will hurt you and your new child may feel like he/she's in his/her brother/sister's shadow.
Now, if you're okay with it I don't think there's anything wrong with reusing names. It'd be a little different if your baby was carried to term and lost, or if it had actually been born and died five weeks later or something to that affect. But at five weeks it was hardly a fetus ... not even shaped like a baby. If it makes you feel any better you can imagine that the baby you lost is the opposite sex of the baby you're going to have ... that is, don't think of both of those names belonging to the first child: that way you can still use one of the names you love, and you don't feel like your really re-using names.
2007-08-24 11:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course!! You miscarried so early. And even though it's painful, the name wouldn't be closely associated with your miscarried baby as much as say, a still birth.
My baby names remained after my miscarriage at 6 weeks.
2007-08-24 09:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have also had 2 miscarriages. I know how hard they can be, but technically it wasn't even a baby yet. YES, go ahead and use those names. You wouldn't have even known the sex of the baby until the 20th week. Good luck and keep the names you were going to go with. If anything it is kindof like a tribute to the one that you lost.
2007-08-24 09:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by mother of 3 angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course! Honey, if those are the names that you love, them you use them! Some people decide to name their miscarried children, which if you want to go right ahead. And if your new baby feels like a Benjamin or Evelyn, then you name him or her that! I'm sure they would love it.
Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss.
2007-08-24 09:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Curious Georgia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say no don't use them if the first baby was a still born and was given those names but as long as you were just thinking of those names then it is just fine to use those names.
2007-08-24 16:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Stumped 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 06:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I miscarried a child back in 1990- a girl who was to be named Sarah Elaine. I felt that, it was her name and nobody elses- so when I had my girl Courtney Mae in 1993, I did not call her Sarah Elaine even though I loved that name. I think I love the name still because it was hers.
I wouldn't if it was my child to be born. But, ultimately, its your decision. If it feels right, go for it.
2007-08-24 11:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by Carolina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who had a misscarrage and had named the girl. When she got pregnant again......she at first didn't want to use the name. but once her little girl was born She gave her the name and felt good about it.
Let your heart be your guide. Don't put your emotional energy in to it now. You will know what to do when the time comes
2007-08-24 21:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a fine idea. But if you feel right about this, do it. In a way, it would be a remembrance.
And if anyone in your family or your friends criticizes you for the choice you made and are comfortable with, ignore them. They will get over it.
And by the way, they are perfectly lovely names!
2007-08-24 09:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. it would be perfectly ok. Maybe not if the baby had been stillborn or later term m/c. If anything it could be as tribute to the sibling they will never know.
2007-08-24 09:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by pookiesmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋