ok, theres this new guy at my school, and he always sits at the girl table at school, onw day me and my girls straight out asked him if he was gay, and he got all offended and mad, and almost cried. he says he has had girlfriends before, but he never hangs out with the guys in my class and always talks like a gay guy does. what should i do about him? he always follows us around and i can't get rid of him! is he gay?
2007-08-24 09:25:40 · 22 answers · asked by ♥snapple♥ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Be nice to him. Don't intrude. He is going through the process of affirming to himself what he is, where he stands. He has to think not only if he is gay, but then what type of gay. He is probably imaging his 'dream guy' while struggling to find that 'something, anything' first time.
This process will take a year or two for him.
2007-08-24 09:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but only if he is a friend that you can trust. I want you to make sure that this person can keep things of this matter to himself without spreading it all of the school, city and surrounding areas. I was wondering why not tell a gay person that you are bi if you have already told some straight friends. People are people. However, can you trust the ones that you have told is the question. I feel you should if he is a good and dear friend.
2016-05-17 06:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here he is, the new guy at school, with no friends and he is trying to get to know some girls at school.
You ask him if he is gay. That is pretty harsh. Give the guy a break, and tell him you are sorry for offending him.
So ask the guy out somewhere. It doesn't have to be a full blown date, but just the two of you, going to the same place at the same time. Snuggle up to him and see what he does.
The guy has to be insecure, and lonely. Give him a chance before you pigeon hole him into a group.
good luck.
2007-08-24 09:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Fordman 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he just wants to be your friend. Plenty of straight guys have lots of female friends; and even if he is gay, is that any reason to be mean to him? There really isn't anythign that weird about being gay - just think of him as one of the girls.
Why don't you try being nice to him and making friends with him? Think about how you would feel, being the new kid with no friends, and the girls being mean to you. Have a little sympathy.
2007-08-24 09:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk around with another gay guy in your school. When you cross paths of the 'gay in concern' you should be able to hear the gaydar go off.
Really, just let him know he's not wanted in your group. Be nice, but let him know.
2007-08-24 11:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by flash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i work w/ a guy thats gay and everyone knows it...one day he sat in a chair and he almost slipped off, well, he quitely said, " Ehh!!" like a gay guy does..u know the Ehh...i've been to his house b4 w/ my bf to fix my car...i was using his computer to print up something and i saw a black guy come out of his room and say, " hey baby!!" to me and scared me cause my bf doesnt say that to me...anyways i asked the guy, not the black guy, the other one, why the black dude was there....he told me he was his gf's bro. and he was helpin the dude out...i saked him, where does he sleep then? and he said in my bed...i said well where do u sleep ten and he said in my bed...he only has a twin bed...hmmmmm...til this day he says that he has a gf, but wont tell anyone what her name is only that it starts w/ a M...the black dude's name starts w/ a M...HE'S GAY!!!!!!
2007-08-24 09:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u mean "talks like a gay guy" do gay guys have a special voice? or is this just a stereotype because its in a lot of movies
2007-08-24 09:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by rock*star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the guys love to be around girl.. in my culture as a mexican there is nothing wrong to be around girls.. it means he likes girls.. but if he was gay maybe he will accept or something like that.. you can't obligate to someone to tell you the truth just respect .. it's like a girl wants to sit with guys.. it means if she is lesbian or something like that?
2007-08-24 11:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't your friend, then it doesn't matter. If he is your friend, then it shouldn't matter.
Why is it so important that you know? So what if he is.
That is a very hard thing for people to go through, and asking a bunch of questions that he may not be ready for isn't helping the situation. So just drop it, and accept people for who they are, not what they are.
2007-08-24 09:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by anselina1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? I'm gay and I sit with girls. Mind your own business and stop trying to out him.
2007-08-24 09:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋