You know "the grass is greener on the other side". Ive been married almost a year and together 2 altogether.. I love my husband but for some reason now that im married there are so many great and attractive guys around.. And there are 2 in particular that i wanted before i got married that are now available and want me!!! But since high school my husband has always been verrry popular with girls and is still very wanted. I just wonder now that ive got a good thing why do i want other options? Anyone else feel this way?
2007-08-24 09:07:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW weve only been out of high school for about 5 years.
2007-08-24 09:08:10 · update #1
I just always wonder what it would be like if i were still single..Before my husband i was in a 7 year relationship age 15-22. now im 24.
2007-08-24 09:14:13 · update #2
Ever heard the sara evans song, I keep looking? It's basically grass is greener syndrome. People always want what they can't have. But this also helps u appreciate what u do have. Plus, married ppl and single ppl are different. That's y sometimes u seem more popular now that ur taken. I havent felt this way yet, but I've noticed that I'm wanted a bit more, and oh. as far as the net goes, I'm a bit popular too. I've been a shy introvert all my life and still am, so its amazing to me. But I wouldn't change anything though. Just enjoy the attention u get, and also enjoy the fact that other girls want ur guy, but he wants u. it's fun and reassuring, especially when u have a special someone to snuggle next to.
2007-08-24 09:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with most answerers. You got married way younger than you were ready. You probably wanted the wedding more than the actual committment that is marriage. Well, guess what? It's not called "breaking up" or "taking a break" in this ball game. It's called getting a divorce or a legal separation. Both are not so cute.
2007-08-24 17:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by christyn79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sad to have to tell you that this is why people advise kids your age to wait later to get married. Clearly, you were not psychologically prepared to give up dating when you got married.
Yes, many people feel that way. Not me -- I am happily married after 21 years! Look at it this way, though: I see other people I wish I could date too. However, long ago, I came to terms in my own mind that what I fleetingly "want" is not nearly so important as maturely adhering to this sacred commitment I have made.
And that's what you're going to have to do -- come to terms with the fact that, you may want that other grass once in awhile, but, oh well, too bad, you're just not going to get it. Then start giving your hubby kisses and get your mind off those other boys.
2007-08-24 16:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let's flip the coin here for you. You go ahead and act on, with one of these guys. After all is said and done and your husband is now a past thing. I promise you - without warning you will wake up one day and think to yourself - Darn, I had a great guy and I blew it.
Have you noticed there is one common denominator in all these answers??? M-A-T-U-R-I-T-Y. Welcome it with open arms or you will regret most of these years.
Long ago - I was you! I learned the best way - I grew up instead of losing the best thing that ever happened to me but it was the second time around before I did.
Good Luck!
2007-08-24 17:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married, not dead.
But that doesn't mean you have to act on it.
Marriage is a serious thing and you seem a little too excited for the opportunity to swap spit or other things with these other dudes.
Could be that you are not ready to be married (too late!). Save your husband from a lifetime of a cheating wife and tell him you are not good enough for him.
2007-08-24 16:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this but it would appear that you were not mature enough to get married in the first place....please discuss this with your spouse openly and realize that divorce may be an option
2007-08-24 16:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass in never greener. Trust someone who has done it three times in three different marriages. It is never worth it. I am just thankful that this one stuck by me and wanted to make it work.
2007-08-24 16:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by lingling 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
the grass appears to be greener. it is an optical illusion. then your marriage will turn to **** brown after u get divorced
2007-08-24 16:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we all seem to want what we dont have, what u have to remember is that, what we do have is really not any different than what we dont have, and u can lose a lot trying to find out if what i said is true, but it is and not worth losing what u already have
2007-08-24 16:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, my ex wife...:)
For her (as she has since told me) it was wondering if she had everything that she could have had when she was with me. Was there more out there? Well, she found out the hard way that there wasn't anything out there that she didn't already have.
2007-08-24 16:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Michael H 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋