i am a sociology student conducting an anonymous survey on how marriage and relationships effect your life. can you still succeed after marriage or does the relationship hold you back? to participate, visit: http://geocities.com/sbiv37
2007-08-24 08:58:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I don't think marriage worsens a woman's chance for success, unless it's a bad marriage and affects what she needs to do to make herself happy.
On the other hand, if a woman has a child, she will always be torn between being a mother and a worker, which is not fair, since both or neither men and women should feel torn between being a parent and a worker.
I've seen some men and women say that women should stop being selfish and stay home with their kids, why do they need to have the latest things? I think it should be men that we say this to as well. Why don't men give up more of their careers and make job sacrifices to attend their children's school events, pick up and drop off their kids at school and after school activities, take care of their kids when they are sick or school is closed? If men took an equal responsibility for all of the sacrifices necessary to raise a family, no matter how it affected their job or career, then companies would have to deal with the fact that both men and women raised families that could affect their jobs and careers, not just women.
2007-08-24 15:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will definitely participate in your survey! I also wanted to say that I believe it depends on the man you're married to and the circumstances under which your marriage is set up. In my partnership, it is just that- an equal partnership with both partners contributing equally to all joint expenditures, yet retaining their separate finances. It works on many levels because even though we both know we will help each other out of a financial jam if need be, neither of us feels we can just coast by and expect the other to rescue us if we overspend. Also, it provides a lot of autonomy for us- if I want to go out and spend $500 at Victoria's Secret, the only person I'll have to answer to is myself, not some Neanderthal husband who has to make comments like, "So that's where my money goes- to keep YOU in underwear," or similar.
2007-08-24 16:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only if she lets it. As long as she keeps the proper perspective she will be a success in marriage, which should come first, being a mom, which should come second and at work which should be last of the three. Then the proper balance can be attained and she can accomplish them all successfully.
2007-08-24 18:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by 'Sunnyside Up' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started a career because in case I didn't get married. So when I got married and had a family, what I really wanted to do with my life, I quit working.
My husband would support me if I wanted to go back to work though.
I think if you are married to the right man, he should support whatever you want to do with your career. And if you are in the right career, it should enhance your marriage.
2007-08-24 16:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Tigger 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Back when it was still legal to ask this, I would interview for jobs and invariably be asked, "So why aren't you married at _______ years old?"
To some employers, it shows that a woman has a stable life if they are married. I completely disagree with this assertion.
2007-08-24 17:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If a marriage is bad for you, don't do it! Seems pretty obvious to me.
And, it all depends on what you plan on succeeding at. If your goal in life is to be happy. And you're happy... you have succeeded.
2007-08-24 16:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think that would depend on her choice in not only the guy she marries, but how held back she lets him keep her.
2007-08-24 17:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You can still succeed after marriage but your primary duty should be to God, then to your husband, and kids.
2007-08-24 20:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If any woman is "held back" in her career after marriage, it is because she allows herself to be. Or, her priorities change. I personally found my co-workers took me more seriously after my marriage.
2007-08-24 16:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you want to devote your life to a career do mankind and your children a favour and dont get married or concieve children. If you are willing to kiss your career goodbye and are ready to be serious about beeing a mom only then you should marry.
2007-08-24 16:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋