she started seeing this person from the begining of our separartion, that is the reason i think she left. We had our problems like any other marriage but i didnt think it would go this far. I never cheated on my wife and I had all the trust in the world in her. She says that the reason she was not because of him, which I dont beleive. So through out our separation she was still seeing this person, so I told her that if she is happy with that person to go with him and do the divorce, I told her that I havent done the divorce because I never wanted this, since she is the one that left she should do it, but she wont. She says that she wants to get along with me right now, but I told her that either way we will because we have a beautiful child togehter. I still love her, but I think she is afraid of divorce because she knows everything will change, she finds any excuse to call me and even invites me to go out with her, so what does she really want?
2007-08-24 08:48:03 · 7 answers · asked by Pete 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU can divorce her ya know?!?! She isn't divorcing you cuz she has the security of the marriage and knowing that you aren't going anywhere and the excitement of the new relationship..... toss her away. How can you ever sleep with this woman knowing she is out gallivanting and possibly sleeping with another man? Time to let her go and experience life after divorce. She is stringing you along - GO FILE THOSE PAPERS and your life will get better! Good luck to ya!
2007-08-24 09:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is why are YOU afraid of the divorce. You have a choice to make. You stay married to her while she spends her time and affection with another man or you move on. You are right that you will always have contact becasue of your child. But you need to take responsibility for your own life and for your daughter's and do what is best for you. It is not in the best interest of your daughter to see her dad's wife messing around.
2007-08-24 08:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you are so adamant about HER filing for divorce then you obviously don't WANT to remain married to her, so the only thing that is holding YOU back from filing is that you are immature and being childish, wanting to put all the blame on her in an attempt to make HER feel guilty, grow up, it takes TWO to make a marriage and it takes TWO to break it.
2007-08-24 12:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you are separated...it should be some kind of agreement that you are still married. You may still have feelings for her but she it seems doesn't for you.This should be the time to reflect on if you guys are going to work it out or not....by her dating some other guy. Is just making the process more difficult. Can't tell you what are why, but what ever you do. Be true to yourself. You are going through a difficult time right now. Your feelings are perfectly natural.
2007-08-24 08:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hm, usually when one is done they want to get it final on paper. i know i did. but maybe she wants to leave that door open in case her relationship doesnt work? because once the papers are signed, thats it, and i assume she knows you wouldnt deny her a divorce so maybe she is afraid to take that step.
2007-08-24 09:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by not this way 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does she REALLY want? She want to keep you as the Jerk in Reserve, when this all crumbles..... easy.
2007-08-24 09:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her cake and eat it too.
2007-08-24 19:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋