Alright so my boyfriend of 3 years is an amazing guy. He was in the US marine corps. and did his duty. He has a job and plays in a band. He cooks for me when him and I are home together and is my best friend. But the romance is gone. He is 23 and I am 21 and he has no libido. On top of all this is combat buddy is his best friend and is now on the war path to break it off between my boyfriend and myself. His Best Friend "RY" has been through a really bad divorce and has been through girls like water through your hand. He is constantly yelling a me about how I treat my boyfriend. As for instance when I yelled at my boyfriend for driving hom drunk at 3 in the morning when he should of jut stayed there. I am faithful and always supportive of whatever my boyfriend wants but I need a realtionship not a friendship. My question is this What do I do?? Do I break up with him or do I talk things out?? And how do I go about doing this??? This is my first long-term relationship and I love him alot.
2007-08-24 08:44:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you love him he is worth keeping. come into little or no contact with this ry guy. ry is unhappy that does not mean you & your boyfriend need to be unhappy. get rid of unhappy things surrounding you that includes this ry dude. put him in the oven like a piece of rye bread....when you get rid of him, you should be able to focus exactly on you and your boyfriend. insist for an evening together and talk about your issues with him. let him no how much you love him and how much you think his friend ry needs to get a life and stay out of your life of couplehood. tell him you see him as a true threat! tell him you need intimacy. tell him if he doesnt want intimacy with you ask what things you can do to motivate him for closeness. if that doesnt pan out well, gt yourself a new boyfriend. you can and will be able to love someone who can love you back. relationships are twofold not one fold. if it were one fold you would be alone.
2007-08-24 09:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by david.b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would first suggest to get your bf friend of you r back. Talk to him tell him whats goin on in your mind how you feel. ask him questions maybe he has something in his mind that is troubling him, because being in the army can change a person anytime, they might seem ok at first but they can change. i think right now he needs you the most and you have been doing that you should be proud of yourself. Just sit him down the to of you with no disruption go someplace where no one can recognize you, oh and try not to yell he probably had enough of that in the marine just try to keep cool no matter how hard it is.
i wish you the best of luck
2007-08-24 15:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by sleepingrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough when it's your first - you have nothing to coampare it to, and no way of knowing whether things are good, bad or infdifferent. Sounds like you need to talk with him, and you need to deal with the 'friend' issue. Best to do that sort of thing as a couple, maybe - unless you can get something through the military, you're probably going to have to do some sort of couples' therapy. Or else, he's going to have to go on his own. Either way, there's a couple warning flags going up. Better to deal with them now.
2007-08-24 15:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to the answer for your question is your last statement: " I love him alot"
That means that you at this point are not ready to break things off.
Talk to him and see if things can be patched up since the way that the relationship is going is not good.
2007-08-24 15:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by DrIG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf pal is taking his anger for what has happened to him out on you instead of his ex-wife.
Turn to him when he yells and say "please do not speak to me in that manner, I am not your wife/girlfriend, I speak to you with respect, I would be grateful for the same"
2007-08-24 15:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋