When pissed off, Withhold Sex from my man? yes or no?

Question

We’ve been together 12 years. Yes- he still pissed me off but that’s expected. All relationships have arguments. But I get to the point where I don’t want him to touch me when Im pissed.
Sometimes I feel like I lead him to other women but sometimes Im so pissed I don’t even care! I love him don’t get me wrong but usually a fight at night ends up with me Refusing to make love or Even sending him to the Sofa… Am I wrong??

Answer 1

One of me and my boyfriends rules is "If WE argue (he points at our faces) they can still be friends and play (he points at our sexual areas) and they will help us (he points at our faces) make up! I personally believe the 'sending to the sofa' will make things worse in the long run between a couple~ Good Luck!

Answer 2

Hi Slim... ;)
I'm hoping this is someone "else" that you're posting this question about...and on that premise....

In a committed relationship, to withdrawl affection from your mate is not being very nice; it's selfish. Males and Females have their own ways of expressing their affection and releasing tension.
In my first marriage, I failed my hubby because I didn't persue in teaching him how to approach me intimately...therefore his affection toward me and our marriage died.
Now, I am newly married, and my new hubby is very vocal (and I mean if he's bent on talking about us in a public place, he has no dither in talking about us in some detail). Which is very discerting to me, but does force me to face the fact that I am not as sexual as he is (as most men are). But the intimacy that the male shares with the female is his way of showing love and releasing stress from his body (such as a good massage can do for me & you).
Please don't use the gift that God gave you as a tool to manipulate the effections of your mate. In time, his feelings for you will die...is that what you really want? Don't force him to committ a wrong against your love by seeking sex elsewhere. He can bring in diseases and get some gal preggy. Best to keep him home and happy.

What my hubby says describes him:
The Three H's:
Happy, Hungry, and Horney.
And if I keep those three fires goin', then our marriage continues to grow strong. I'm still learning to let my pride go and relax more in expressing myself affection-wise more. My prior marriage I literally learned how to turn off my emotions. Sounds almost like you're entertaining that avenue yourself. Please don't.

Love him, love him, and remember to love him.

082407 4:15

Answer 3

I can understand not wanting to be intimate when you are angry but sometimes you just need to forgive and forget, suck it up and get back to the relationship. What you describe is using sex as a currency or barometer of your happiness with him, that is dangerous. Affairs is just one of the bad consequences that come from it. There are several others. This is one of the reasons the bible cleary says..."Do not let the sun go down on your anger"

Answer 4

you have all the right to be pissed.You're the girl, he's the guy. You are allowed to kick his sorry butt out if you're not comfortable.
And declaring no sex is perfectly fine. I could understand that you wouldn't want him to touch you, but if you feel that way about him, maybe counseling would be in your best interest to get hold of his anger. And possibly yours.

Answer 5

Yes, because one thing has nothing to do with the other. There's an old proverb don't let the sun go down on your anger which means don't go to bed angry at least agree to disagree. Just because you're angry with him doesn't mean you've stop loving him does it so don't withhold intimacy from him.

Answer 6

Of course your not gonna want to have sex with him when your mad. You are however damageing your relationship try reading love and respect by Emmerson Eggrich

Answer 7

Your choice. Sounds stupid to me, but that's between you and him. Me, I'd have packed it in by now, got divorced and gone looking for someone less angry.