Help I have a man at home who is great!!!!!!?

Question

I love him dearly, we are not married, he is still not ready for that. But I have a problem? There is this guy who fixes our cars for the company that I work for he is so fine, I told him this, and that I would love to run away with him, he said his wife would not like that, yet he told her what I said and she laughed and asked him if he asked me if I wanted the oil changed on the car. he told her that I come in with our cars all the time. she does not seem to have a problem with him flirting. What do I do when I am around him I get butterflies in my stomach, have not had that feeling in a long time!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

If you love your boyfriend so much then you wouldn't even be considering cheating on him.

You need to get over this little crush. Don't ruin two relationships because you think it may be fun.

Answer 2

U know u women really kill me just because a man is fine on the outside and I mean looks like u -r getting all of these butterflies over does not mean he is that way on the inside does it.
What is ur problem u say u have a good man at home n so he many not be ready for marriage and if ur acting like this I would not be ready for marriage with u either and this guy is also married as well and his wife does not seem to mind the flirting and u have the nerve to ask us what to do when u-r around him well for one thing how about growing up!! that would help and remember that u have a good man at home and this guy is married how does that work out for u!!
If I wrote what I really wanted to say to u n how I felt about this question u better believe Yahoo Answers would definitely bar it from being viewed by anyone.

Answer 3

Mess up a good thing over some stupid flirting. Who says this guy would ever leave his wife or cheat on her. I think the more important thing is, do you love the guy you are with? I am sure you had butterflies when you first met your current boyfriend now, didn't ya? But a mature relationship lasts even beyond the butterflies. But it sounds like you still have some maturing to do. He came clean right away and said his wife wouldn't like that. So take the hint and leave it alone you family wrecker.

Answer 4

You go get your oil changed somewhere else.

Your current relationship is stale, even though you love him. Now you've found a guy who pays attention to you, flirts with you, and makes you feel good. Sounds like your man at home is lacking in that department and needs to step up. Just tell him. Be nice about it, not condescending. Tell him you miss the times he would flirt with you or teased or touched you in a certain way. You need to bring back the spark. But you can't do that with a distraction, someone who could potentially ruin your relationship. If you want out, get out; if not, avoid the temptation and talk to your man. If he loves you, he'll be willing to rethink what he does. Who knows, maybe he's feeling the same way!

Answer 5

Why are you trying to find a relationship in a situation that you need not even try? Jeez a mighty -- the man is MARRIED. Stay away from already married men!!!!!!!!!! Sometimes it is normal to have flutter with other people, it doesn't mean you act on it. We are all human. I suggest you work on the great man at home, and leave the MARRIED MAN alone. There is a saying "look but don't touch." I believe this saying rings loud and true for the situation you are in.

Answer 6

I know what you are feeling. I have gone thought the same thing ! I have a grate wife but there this woman in work that we just clicked and if we were single we would not be for long! So just in joy each otheir flirting knowing that all ther can be! So when you see he take a moment and then say hi and you will most likely be come tight he will be some you could talk to for a man's point of view.

Answer 7

Well if you really love the man your living with, I would stay away from the car guy, even though his wife doesnt mind that he flirts, that has potentional to become a huge mess. Try to work on your realtionship with the man at home more. Somtimes it just takes a while for men to figure out if they are ready for marriage.

Answer 8

Here are the facts you presented:

1. You're having sex with a man you're not married to (your boyfriend, whom you live with);

2. You "love him dearly", yet you are flirting with a married man from the car repair company;

3. You are throwing yourself at this married man, telling him that you "would love to run away with him."

To sum it all up:
You are motivated by lust;
You are ignoring morality;
You want some man to commit adultery because your pants are on fire.

Suggestions:
Go take a cold shower;
Make a decision to live you life they way God wants you to live, instead of the way your crotch wants you to live.
Problem solved!

Answer 9

Most likely, the other guy has no intentions in running away with you, he's committed to his wife and seems like they have a strong and trusting relationship. Don't ruin their relationship, and don't cheat on your boyfriend, the least you can do is break up with your boyfriend and look for someone who isn't involved yet.

Answer 10

How would you feel if your man was doing this with the dry cleaner or some other hottie? It is natural to be attracted to other people, But its our choice not to step over the line.
His wife clearly trust him and knows what she has so she is confident. Don't mistake that for a go ahead for you. You need to work out your issues at home and stop looking outward for appreciation.

Answer 11

you are just asking for trouble why don't you appreciate the good man that you have at home and stop acting like a horny teenager! I don't blame your man for not wanting to marry you. It's obvious the other guy could care less about you or why would he tell his wife? It sounds like your stalking the guy, grow up!