Should i quit having sex with this one dude?

Question

well me and this dude has had sex 5 times and we use to go out 2gether but we dont now cus i broke up with him but i really love him and wanty be with him im tryin my best to get him back but he wont take me back but he does tell me that he loves me and this boy is the boy i lost my virginty to and i havent had sex with nobody else but him but i really love him should i stop it or keep gettin what i want and lettin him have what he wants!~!~!~! im only 16 and his 18!~!~ what should i do i really love him and we are usin protection cus i dont wont kids or he dont ether

me and him ARENT together

omg i love this boy to death and hello my uncle is a policeofficer i done talked to him and there isnt any thing they can do cause i give him the permison okay i really love him with all my heart

Answer 1

please please please... don't have sex with nobody else and don't have sex with that one guy either. i promise you, you will be very happy that you did. there is plenty of time for all of that later and a guy that will only "love" you if you have sex with him does not love you and never will. it's about self-respect, not to mention all of the other things that i am sure adults have preached about to you. listen to them, they are much more wise than you think and have been through very much the same things that you are going through. trust someone that YOU truly respect and talk with them about this. stay strong sweetie.

Answer 2

Stop having sex. Condoms break or can have holes in them. Not safe. You're only 16 live a little and dont worry about sex. I was 17 when I got pregnant, I love my son but I wish I could have done alot more than i have. And my sister has a friend who had her first baby at 13 and when she was 15 she had a 2nd baby. Do you want to have a baby at 17? They are a lot of responsibility, even with people helping, Mommy mommy is all about you. A baby wont call anyone else that. And as much as this guy says he loves you doesnt mean he'll be there when and if you get pregnant or for a baby. I wish I could take it all back and do it over again. I would never started having sex.

Answer 3

Okay, first off stop having sex. Sex does not mean love. It means big problems. I bet you are a beautiful person and if he can not see that then you don't need him. I am 24 and have only had sex with the person who took my virginity and we have been off and on for 6 years. Its possible that him being 18 and you 16 could be a problem. Look in the mirror and decide what you want. No matter how many people answer this question you have to make the decision. I know it is tough to let go, but its the best. And if things are meant to be for yall then it will happen. Hope it works out for you!

Answer 4

You are 16? You need to quit worrying about sex first of all. There is PLENTY of time for that later. I started having sex at 17 and I didn't even start liking it until I was like 26! The guy is just using you as a hole. Don't let any man ever use you like that. There will be so many more men that you will meet in your lifetime. Save yourself and that part of your body for someone special. Focus on school and grades and clothes, and cars and college. All that is way more impt than doin' it just to get attention from some guy.

Answer 5

breaking up is not a good thing to do especially if you love him. its not a game to play and it is definitely no fun. having sex is not a game either although it is fun. things could get a little bit confusing when sex come into a relationship. it tends to occupy too much of the time such that meaningful relationship become secondary. Hence it is better to keep sex aside and nurture each others feelings without too much sex involvement.

Answer 6

If you read back over your statement, you will hear the answer. If you continue to have sex with him, you still will not be getting what you want.

What you want is a relationship and you just said that he's not feeling it. Don't waist your time, emotions, or body on some guy who doesn't want the same things that you want.

Move on! I know that's easier said than done, but it will be much tougher to continue to deal with him and not be fullfilled.

Answer 7

Your question is just filled with unhealthy self-destructive thinking on your part.
Your approach to sex, & the way you use it to control others speaks loud & clear as to why 16yo's should simply abstain from sex, period.

I recommend that you stop having sex with EVERYBODY (except maybe with yourself) until you have given yourself a little more time to mature.

Answer 8

first of all ;
he's only have 18 years old , so i think at this age boys don't won't to have a relation ship but just have fun .
he tell you that he love you but sweety when we have 18 years old sorry to say that but we are just a "kid " and not responsable at all .


i realize that this situation hurt you but trust me you be more mature after that .
so , don't gave him what he want , that is only have sex , keep your self esteem !!!

if i have one advice to you :
admit your mistake , deal with it , move on !!!


good luck and don't be sad ! :)

Answer 9

You should stop. He was obviously just using you for sex since after you did it with him he broke up with you.
And that fact that he won't go out with you now suggests that he was indeed using you, and will probably use whoever he happens to go out with.
He sounds like an over bearing jerk who pressured you into doing it with him, then dumped you after he had had his fill, I WOULD NOT PURSUE HIM ANY FURTHER IF I WAS YOU.

Answer 10

Well first off him having sex with you is rape by law is you're 16 even if you wanted it. Second, if he doesnt want to have a relationship with you but is willing to have sex with you then he's just using you. Sorry to say it. Forget about him, stop sleeping with him, and move on, he's not worth it regardless of if you care about him. Find a guy who respects you