I'm a black women who often gets mistaken for being white becuase of my blonde hair and blue eyes?

Question

I was in this store minding my own business when I heard these to women talking about black people calling them everything but a child of god. I stepped over and asked her what was her probably and she said that black women are nothing but whores ( not knowing I was a black woman) so I slapped her for being so ignorant. But now I feel bad for stooping down to her level, was I wrong for slapping her?


Grandparents are European descent

I have a black father with french ancestors and my mother is biracial. For the people that think I have a identity people have issues with themselves. True my mother is biracail but in society who your parents have black in them you still will be looked upon as a black person.

IT'S A AVATAR DUMB ****** YOU ALL ARE ACTING LIKE IT'S MY ACTUALLY PICTURE. YES MY EYE COLOR IS BLUE AND I DO HAVE NATURAL SANDY BLONDE HAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!! I DON'T HAVE TO LIE ABOUT MY HERTIAGE YOU FOOLS

Answer 1

I understand how your felt, and you had every right to be angry. However taking it to a physical level was not the thing to do. What happens now is this woman, who is obviously a racist and ignorant, will tell everyone that she was not only correct about black women, but here is her proof that anyone associated with them is violent and and every other bad thing she can think of. (I'm assuming you didn't let her know you were black. If you did let her know she will now add violent to her arsenal against black women.) The best way to deal with the ignorance of others is to live well and show them you are an upstanding decent person. Someone that your friends and family are proud to be associated with. Being a good citizen and person makes people like her stand out (and not in a good way) for their horrible attitudes and words. Other people will see the truth if you live your life on the higher level. It's tough I know. My son is bi-racial and he has his struggles too. But never let them bring you down. The best revenge is living well.

Answer 2

Yes, I do think you're wrong for slapping her. Violence isn't the answer. Those women have a right to their opinions, no matter how ignorant their opinions are. You went over there and asked them. You should have been able to accept their answer, whether or not you agreed with it. I think you fell below their level, but now you realize that you were wrong, so I'm sure you won't make that mistake again. You can slap ignorance out of anyone and you can always lead by example. You let that particular chance to educate those women slide by, next time you will handle it better. Besides, don't ever give the power to make you feel badly to another. Good luck. 2D

Answer 3

There are many ways to communicate. Sometimes, shock therapy is the only appropriate method to get through to someone. If all you did was slap her, without discussing why you did it, then you left the job half done. Did you ever tell her you were black and were personally offended by what she said? Did you suggest that everyone's blood is red when oxygenated, and blue when depleted? And, if she's really curious, she should look up royalty inbreeding and the wonderful results.

You can cure ignorance through education. You can't fix stupid.

Answer 4

Try not to feel guilty for losing your temper with the Bigot, it was no worse than swatting at an annoying insect. Remember that some forms of life on our planet have little or no intelligence. But in the future you might want to keep in mind, some states have assault charges available for an incidence such as this, so it would be better to leave the punishment up to a higher judge.

Answer 5

It's a natural emotional reaction, but not really good for you to do that. I know how you feel because even though I think it's obvious people don't always know I'm mixed white and native, or sometimes they KNOW and they say really ignorant things to me anyway! A lot of people around here say terrible things about the French Canadians too. I'm part French. Anyway it help a lot to think of racist people as socially inferior ignorant boors. That way you can just pity them.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, if this offends you, but If you have naturally blond hair and blues then you aren't black, you're mixed race. Which is not to say that you aren't African American.

As for the slap, that's actually classed as assault in the eyes of the law. Still, I don't blame you. If anybody called any ethnic group that in front of me I'd want to slap them, too.

Answer 7

Well you did turn the other cheek! :-)

In all seriousness, people normally take offense to things that are true. Since that is not true, you shouldn't have taken any offense.

For all the people saying a black person cannot naturally have blond hair and blue eyes must have never met an albino black person. It is possible, although very rare for the eyes to be blue.

Answer 8

People mistake me for being full white, then they start talking about Black people around me saying ''How ghetto they act'' ''How they dress in public'' I go up to them and say My dad is Black. I would not slap them because it's wrong. But it would be different if they kept going on about it.

Answer 9

i no how you feel, because i feel the same and deal with the same things and I'm Cherokee and french heritage. but you shouldn't of done it, slapped her, it was a mortal mistake because now you've gone right down to her level. and would she press charges now...i hope not because she was in the wrong to and she was insulting you and being racist to your heritage, which is against the law...but for next time, try and control yourself and ignore such people.

Answer 10

I would not have slapped her as it would just prove her point. But I understand what you mean. I have naturally red hair and I used to get accused when I was younger of trying to be "a white girl".