I DONT KNOW WHAT 2 DO BUT I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART AND I DO ANYING THING 4 HIM WHAT EVER HE NEED HELP AROUND HIS HOUSE I DO ANYTHING PLEASE HELP ME IM GOING DRIVE DO U THINK WE HAVE A FUTUTER TOGHTER
2007-08-24 07:24:51 · 26 answers · asked by bcooskey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What could you possibly share in common with a guy that is old enough to be your father?
2007-08-24 07:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably think you love him, but give it some time. Don't rush into anything! Just think about when you're 40, he will be 61. That's a huge age difference. You might love him now, but think of everything you would be missing out on by marrying when you're 19. Not to mention it's someone that much older. You might not be thinking about that right now, but when your in your early twenties and you're stuck in a marriage, possibly with children, you'll really feel it. Marriage changes a lot of things in a relationship!! You should be 100% sure!
2007-08-24 07:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an excuse. Find out the reasons why he thinks age difference will matter and address those issues. It could be about raising children, education, maturity, or any one of a number of things. You have to address his root reasons and fears. But the reality is age difference is generally not a big difference. It's the other differences which may or may not be associated with age that are the "deal killers". Find out what they are, at least in his mind. Age difference marriages worked better in the old days (pre 1950's) than modern times which is a clue. They can work and when they do, are truly great. Go for it, girl, and luck.
2007-08-24 07:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Warning! DO NOT MARRY HIM! He is from a different generation from you and that causes a LOT of problems. I know from experience here. My grandmother married a man old enough to be her father and they are a HORRIBLE couple! The way they see the world is COMPLETELY different and even though they are both nice people, they CANNOT or WILL not see the world from the other person's view. You have no idea about the world 20 years before you were born, but that's when his world view was being formed. Your world view is completely different than his, it's not going to work.
PLEEEASE! Do yourself and your future a favor and run away from this! I've had to live with two grandparents who do nothing but fight over the way life is for 26 years. You do not want a marriage like that.
2007-08-24 07:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by Quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you must. The best lasting relationships in today's world is when the gal is much much younger then the guy. Add to this factor of age difference, a great pair of boo*bies, and u r both set for a time of a life. Guys of your age are boring jerks with no cash and they do not know how and where a girl like to get it (u know what I'm saying!¨).
So go ahead and live happily and sexually ever after!!
2007-08-24 08:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mr ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is irrelevant if he loves you. Sounds to be like he's using you for sex. (Free milk and the cow?) He wants to keep his options open by NOT marrying you, he can do whatever he pleases. (Cheat, hang with his buds...) Don't be naive and think that just because he's seeing you that there isn't other things going on when you aren't there. If he loved you and wanted you as a wife (provided you guys have dated for a at least a year or so), he would have asked you. And then again, some girls aren't the marrying type. Maybe that's you? You need to look at other reasons why he won't commit to you, age is a cop-out...
2007-08-24 07:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Forgot How 2 Show Him 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You being so young, No! I am sorry
That love you have for him is probably true love, but in reality you will go down in life wondering what would it be like to be with someone your own age or close to ur age. Don't live a sheltered life so you won't be tempted. I don't want you to regret it later. It might seem right, right now but I think it will change. (Especially if he has a past life with kids and exwife)
Start new, girl DON'T DO IT but it is your perogative Good Luck!!!
2007-08-24 07:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Buttterfly123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it....in a few years he will have hair growing out of his ears!!
He's a shame to pursue a relationship with a 19 y/o. If my 20 y/o daughter was pursued by a 40 y/o man (my age by the way) I would ruin his life, I don't care how much it would cost me.
2007-08-24 07:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is completely right you are to young Dear and you can't rush a Man or a marriage never will work. You just think you know what love is .He is old enough to be your father.You just need to not rush anything.If you push it you may even lose his friendship.If you do truly love him you can and will wait
2007-08-24 07:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound more like his maid than the love of his life. Find someone that isn't old enough to be you dad. For goodness sake's, when he was 20 years old, you weren't even born yet!
2007-08-24 07:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just posted a question that your 'homie gurl' has a boyfriend who is 42 and she is 19 and she wants to get married..
now you have a boyfriend who is 40 and you are 19 and he wont marry you because of your age..
something is not adding up.
2007-08-24 07:33:32 · answer #11 · answered by Baby is finally here!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋