there is a woman (friend) who has a very evident crush and fixation on me , she has openly stated her sexual intentions to myself and to our friends....the trouble is i am married , and our friend (she) is fully aware of this as well...she does not seem to mind of my marital status...how do i persuade her to relize that i am devoted to my wife and wish she would stop placing me in these un-easy situations with out hurting her feelings ?
2007-08-24 07:05:19 · 27 answers · asked by surveyman5285 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Weird her out. If you get a chance to be alone with her, tell her that you have strong feelings for her and ready to leave your wife so you two can be married. Then kiss her so you'd look believable. The combination of those words and that action should immediately gross her out. That should take care of it.
2007-08-24 08:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by darmonx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're worried about hurting HER feelings?
While I realize you want to be a nice guy, she obviously isn't respectful of you or your wife. Reverse this situation, there's a male (friend) that has stated their intentions, marital status or not, on your wife. Would you care if she HURT his feelings?
Just a thought, you could inform your wife and see how much she respects the other woman's feelings.
2007-08-24 07:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is this my husband? omg. my husband has a "friend" like this. more like a whore if you ask me.
"our friend" my butt! anyone with an intention of causing someone else misery is NOT a friend. cut off ALL contact with this person. why care about her feelings? in my opinion she isn't entitled to be cared about. she is trash!! the trouble isn't you being married, the trouble is how you are handling the situation. and ignoring the situation isn't good enough. tell her to her face, put it in writing, and let your wife know what you are doing about it. and don't put yourself in these situations. block her number, stop calling her and her job and don't be searching for her on myspace!!!
if some man was trying to feel up your wife in front of you....would you care about the guy's feelings at all?
2007-08-24 07:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if your happily married and vowed to never cheat, enjoy the sights, but ever stray. These here girls are gold-digger tramps that have no morals. All she wants is a new pogo to pounce on for a change of pace. If you get in trouble, she would care less and blame you for acting on her advances. If she does it to you, chances are there are more guys she's doing the same thing to.
If you want to end it quickly, next time she does it, pull out an 18" kilbasha and say "say hello to my little friend".
2007-08-24 07:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to be mister nice guy. Be firm and tell her in no uncertain terms that you are not interested. You don't have to be a jerk to get your message across but you can't be too nice about it or she might get mixed signals. If she still doesn't take the hint, tell your wife and see if she can make her back off. Sometimes it takes a lot for people to get a clue but you have to keep trying.
Good Luck. :)
2007-08-24 08:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by C T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her straight out - why would you be worried about hurting her feelings? And why aren't you always with your wife when you are around this other woman? And tell your wife each time this happens!
2007-08-24 09:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you worried about hurting her feelings? she isn't worried about jeopardizing your marriage. her actions (if known by your wife) could easily start to make your wife feel threatened, doubtful, and insecure. i think this woman is taking advantage of the fact that you are trying to be the "nice guy" and be tactful. if you blatantly rebuffed her, she would be forced to accept reality. if you continue to treat her with kid gloves, while she runs around town openly disrespecting your marriage, then she feels there is a chance that you will continue to soften to her.
put your foot down. don't worry about her feelings. she's not worried about yours, otherwise she would have stopped already. she's not worried about your wife's feelings. she's not worried about your children's or family's feelings as she goes around belittling your marriage vows. give her the attention she deserves...none. make it clear how you feel.
don't try to break it to her gently, don't try to say it nicely, don't smile when you say it. next time she flirts or makes advances, look directly in her face with no smile or pretense of friendliness (she's no friend of yours) and say, "i'm married and i'm happy about it. there will never be a chance for us. ever. please find some other hobby to keep you busy and leave me alone."
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2007-08-24 07:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
oh, she openly stated her sexual intentions? well, openly state you are married and you do not cheat...and that will be that =) lol! who cares about hurting her feelings... your wifes feelings are certainly more important...imagine how your wife will feel when you finally tell this lady to go away, pretty good, huh, lol! good luck! =) she is making you un easy, so, it's time to embarrass her butt! lol!
2007-08-24 07:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kyle Petty?!! You hafta be kidding. additionally, I remember Mark Martin a pair years in the past asserting that a million/2 the adult males on the track don't have a license to stress, no longer to point out stress in NASCAR. additionally, somebody truthfully reported Stewart, lmao. i could ought to bypass with Carl Edwards, Burton, Kahn.
2016-10-09 04:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by luse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you might just have to hurt her feelings. sounds like she is pretty relentless. tell her publically when she makes these "announcements" that it is rude and you would appreciate it if she would stop making those kinds of remarks....she knows you are married and love your wife and you don't appreciate being put in that kind of situation. Besides the fact that she isn't worried about YOUR feelings.....i wouldn't worry so much about hers.....
2007-08-24 07:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by Brandy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋