Please help Ive been looking for her for 13 year and know I know were she is we have 3 buiteful kid together and I realy want to see my kids I sent a letter to her in hope she will call or e-mail me I ve remarried and have a 8 year with my wife now and my little girl ask me all the time if she will meet her brother and sisters and know Ive went this far want do you think I need to do Note me and my ex wife left me on bad term she said if I would ever divorce her I would never see my kids Please help
2007-08-24 06:06:35 · 29 answers · asked by hancockerik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bring her to court. Get visitation. If she has such an issue and can't get over herself, proceed to file for custody, then settle for visitation.
2007-08-24 06:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If I were your wife, I would not be impressed by your note if the writing is a bad as you have written here in your question.
That aside, you would really have to be pragmatic and tell us about why you guys broke-up and why you have not stayed in touch with your kids for 13 years. That sounds pretty serious! Did you pay any support?
Your ex-wife may have made the decision that you are no good and shouldn't have any interaction or influence with your kids since you didn't pay any attention or support and she'd be right to do so.
Are you prepared to pay back child support? She could sue you for it!
I am also worried about what kind of damage you might be causing to your 8 year old building her anticipation on something that you cannot deliver on.
You should focus on keeping you new wife happy and providing a stable environment for the kids you are presently responsible for.
It would seem as your ex-wife wants the past to be left in the past. You should do the same.
2007-08-24 06:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by SolarFanatic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay that you sent her a letter. It's time to forget the past and let you start having a relationship with the kids.
However, I can't tell if your wife feels the same because I don't know why you got divorced in the first place. If you cheated on her and she was so mad about it then sorry, but she has the right to stay mad at you for as long as she wants.
2007-08-24 06:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought of that 13 years ago. If you haven't been paying child support (and don't have the total of 13 years worth of child support for 3 kids to pay upnow) you can't expect to be granted access to the kids. Now all of a sudden because your new child is asking about his/her siblings, you want to be a dad to the other 3 again.
2007-08-24 06:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
I'm glad to hear that you found her. I would give her time to respond. It's been 13years and maybe the things she said in anger she really didn't mean or is thinking differently today. If you don't get a response, you may have to call a lawyer and get something offical sent out. Hang in there and never stop trying to see your kids. I wish you the best of luck!!
2007-08-24 06:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on where you are from it is illegal to just not allow visitation.. Do you pay her child support? If you do you should be able to see your children.. If you don't you might want to set up some sort of college fund or trust for them and file a petition in court for visitation rights... Show the judge that you have tried to be civil and arrange for visits and she hasn't allowed them. Show that you are remarried with other children and a stable home environment and the judge should arrange for visitation... Good luck
2007-08-24 06:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would consult a lawyer first in order to sort out your options. If your divorce stated that you had to pay child support and you haven't then, you'll have a problem. Regardless if you ended in bad terms, if your divorce decree says that you are entitled to visit your children, she does not have any right to deny that to you. Only in case that she got a restriction order against you. You are the only one who knows those details. But please consult a lawyer first.
2007-08-24 06:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by NA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seek a family lawyer, he's the only one who will provide you with the information you are seeking. Everyone has the right to see their children but it just depends on what you have done in the past.
2007-08-24 06:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, maybe she couldn't read your letter because you don't have a clue on how to spell or use grammar properly. Second, if you tried this long, why don't you make this a legal issue? Just a thought, seeing as you can't make a decent decision yourself.
2007-08-24 06:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by dudley997997 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think you need a lawyer. If you pay child support then you have a right to see your kids.
2007-08-24 06:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋