My mate and I have been together for 6 yrs & have 3 kids (2 from my previous marriage). When we first got together we were gettin busy like bunnies now we may do it once every 2 weeks or longer. I have a very high sex drive and need it at least every other day. He works 3rd shift and I work 8am - 5pm so the only time we sleep together now is Fri. & Sat. nites. I am so sexually frustrated that I am thinking about cheating because I just cant handle all the waiting and when I do finally get it its like "no oral ,just a stick it in get off in 3 minutes type deal and I havent even had my orgasm yet" . It used 2 be so good but now ... Please give any advice!!I have tried talking to him about this and what turns me on but he even made the comment that "Talking during sex is pointless" because I told him that I like 4 him 2 talk dirty 2 me. I cant take this anymore!!!
2007-08-24 05:31:34 · 19 answers · asked by sexy_grll 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do have a vibrator which I have been using but I want the feel of a man now. I have also been thinking that maybe he could be cheating but he is always at work or asleep and spends his off days with me. Something must be wrong with him because I am a good looking and well built chic, thats what I dont understand. How could he not want this??
2007-08-24 05:42:08 · update #1
I take very good care of myself and ALWAYS dress sexy. I mean I get approached by other men all the time, that is why its so hard to turn them down because I know I am not gettin any at home and what i do get is awful! I just dont understand how he could not want it.
2007-08-24 06:21:42 · update #2
Sounds like this is a real problem. One that DEMANDS immediate attention.
I recommend that you take a day off of work, so that you will be home and awake when he is. You need to sit down with him and tell him what you feel. Tell him exactly what you told us (minus the cheating part) and let him know that you are not happy.
Ask him if he has any ideas how to correct this problem--is he not attracted to you, etc. BUT be ready to accept his answers without getting defensive or hurt. At least do not show it if it does hurt. REMEMBER: You must create an environment in which he feels it is safe to openly and honestly communicate with you on this subject.
You might have to consider getting a different job, so that you are working the same shift that he works.
Something that you might try is orally stimulating him, but not finish and tell him that he CAN'T finish until you have had your turn. Make it a game.
Be open-minded to his suggestions. Be willing to try something new if he brings it up.
Good luck!
2007-08-24 05:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by tempest_twilight2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women feel the way you do just like me...I feel like I also need it everyother day or 3x a week the least...
I suggest that you buy yourself a toy...that way you will enjoy anytime anywhere and you will also be able to control when you want to get off...don't think of cheating just because you're not getting enough sex from him, it will not do you any good.
And don't forget to talk to your husband about this issue...again. Tell him how you feel and that you are an intimate person and you miss the old bunny times. I'm sure he'll be turned on by that.
2007-08-24 12:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet when you where "gettin busy like bunnies" you weren't married where you? One of the prices you have to pay for giving the milk away free b4 he buys the cow! Don't cheat you might want to seek counseling. A lot of times its not even about the "sex" you might just need some special attention, especially if you only see each other in passing.
Hope it all works out!
2007-08-24 12:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by Team 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You no not need to be unfaithful. No matter what. Relieve your sex drive yourself. DO not be demanding or threatening of your husband, this is a turn off. Try just playing the part. Walk around almost nude, (if children are not home) Try to change your work time to 9-6, You know what he likes, and how he likes you (at least you should) so, do it passively. Take a weekend trip away.
2007-08-24 12:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave if you are that unhappy but remember sex isn't everything. Life interfers. Everyone has these issues. Get a toy, use your hand or try to set the mood for him: Get a sitter for the night, romance him, make a romantic dinner, wear something sensual. Then if none of that works, be open and honest and if that doesn't work, move on without him.
2007-08-24 12:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by blooming_pretty_rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't an easy solution to this situation. I guess you'll have patiently work to get him to respond to a variety of different things in bed. But all this is for someone that is willing to listen and value your thoughts/opinion.
He has to learn to be more romantic and intimate with you. That usually drives passionate moments which actually make us want it more and in turn helps us prolong whatever we engage in. So, it's like a chain reaction. Kissing is incredibly important. Kissing can really keep that tempo going and make it totally intense :-)
But don't get frustrated. If you can, work with to help him get it. Else of course you would naturally be drawn to getting it from the outside. If you'd like to share your thoughts, feel free to IM/email me.
2007-08-24 12:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by this_big_one_is_4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women just want it to happen just because they want it to. I hope you're not going to bed in sweats and a long t-shirt and expect him to get in the mood. Most women don't understand that it's a visual thing for guys. Lingerie, strip tease or masterb-ing in front of him works most of the time. If your doing these things, and you are keeping up your appearance, then something is wrong with him. Try some porn to.
2007-08-24 12:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl get off the computer and seduce yo man!! Believe in the power of the P****! If it used to be good then it can be good again! One day surprise him and sex his a** up!! Have fun girl, and if all else fails (like I tell everyone) get the sex toy called Silver bullet!
2007-08-24 12:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Pretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just wait till BOTH of you are in the bed and start playing with your self and see what happens if he dont do anything then just go to him and do what YOU want and if he trys to push you off just slap him around alitte bit lol maybe he will like that! DONT cheat it will just make everthing worse
2007-08-24 12:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by I_LOVE_MY_BOYFRIEND!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-24 12:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by kittykatsback 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋