I have a friend that is dating a married man. I've already expessed my dislike of what she is doing. I was thinking about giving up the friendship because I strongly disagree with her dating a married man. I miss being friends with her. How do I continue the friendship and be supportive of her when I don't agree with what she's doing?
2007-08-24 05:21:24 · 12 answers · asked by Shakey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let her go. She's fundamentally different from you. Your values are different, and it will show up in many more ways over time.
2007-08-24 05:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Thursday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are friends with someone doesn't mean that you are always going to like all of the decisions that they make. You said that you miss being friends with her which means that you should not give up the friendship because it is only going to hurt you. I think that you need to let her know that you are going to distance yourself from her, not stop being her friend but distance yourself, until she stops dating the married man. There is no way that you can be there for her like you used to when you dislike what she is doing so much. You can be there from a distance but she needs to come to her senses.
2007-08-24 05:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by A W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to still be friends, then set down some rules. If she's with you, make sure she knows you don't feel comfortable talking about her relationship with the married man. If it's still too hard for you to be friends with her after setting down some rules, then you'll have to sacrifice the friendship you have with her. Friends come and go. You sound like a very kind and dedicated person, I'm sure you'll make new friends easily.
2007-08-24 05:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by manidalisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your morals for being very unhappy in that type of situation. It usually becomes bad 4 both parties involved. I would sit down with her and have a serious talk, tell her how u really feel about what she is doing to his wife and what she is doing to you and that u have a true problem with how she is acting and say if u continue this , I can no longer be supportive to u and our freindship would at least have to be put on hold. Hope that helps!!
2007-08-24 05:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is okay for you to have your own morals and beliefs, but it is not up to your friend to live up to your expectations. She is entitled to make her own decisions and she will learn from her mistakes the hard way, especially since she is dating a married man and she knows that she is wrong.
Second, I applaud you for being there for her and telling her that what she is doing is wrong. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to let her make her mistakes. You can still be there for her as her friend, but you can't preach your morals to her.
Third, you can still hang out with your friend- if you decide to. There is no need for you to spend time with the both of them. In the meantime, focus on whatever it is that you need to do for yourself. Once your friend realizes what mess she's got herself into, DO NOT bail her out. She needs to clean it up herself and take it as a life learning experience. Good luck.
2007-08-24 05:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is grown. You can not lice her life for her. Be her friend. She will need you when she realizes that this will not work. And don't say I told you so, but be supportive. In the mean time, explain that you are not comfortable hearing hear talk about him and their relationship, or take it with a grain of salt when she does. If you love your best friend you'll figure something out.
2007-08-24 05:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by Strong w/ Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to realize that your friend has her own life to lead and that you have no say in it.
Second, you have to realize that it's okay for you to have the morals and standards you do, but it's not okay to expect her to live up to your morals and standards.
Third, if you don't like the guy, only spend time with her, not with both of them.
2007-08-24 05:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you cant control her life nor can you make her descions. This is her life and your concern should be with your life. So you dont agree, just stay out of what she doing and tell her to not talk about it nor bring it up.....its a sensitive subject. Just be a freind and thats all......
2007-08-24 05:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by divers_godeeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i woulndt be able to cuz like you i disagree with what shes doing.have you thought about anonimously calling the wife so she is aware of it. who needs a friend like that anyways she probably uses you as her escape goat to see him on the side.
2007-08-24 05:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a very unstable person if she is dating a married man. she probably needs a good friend but usually ppl like that need professional help.
2007-08-24 05:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by questiongurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋