My husband & I have been together for over 10 years and married 7.
The other night my 13 year old stepson, whom lives with us, got cut and had to get stitches. His mom met us at the ER because she live 1 block from the hospital. I was going to leave my husband & her and go home but she said no stay with us. When it was time for him to go back she asked the doctor if all 3 of us can go. And they said yeah is this his Aunt or a friend? So she said no its his stepmom.
The doctors and nurses were completely shocked that we were both there. And even made a comment that should they keep the guards near by. Is it that odd for us to get along?
2007-08-24 05:16:02 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We get along well for the sake of the kids. There are even times when our children stay at her house with their sisters. And they love it.
2007-08-24 05:24:41 · update #1
LadyG thats great.
When we got married all 4 of their children were in the wedding and she came to my house the morning of the wedding and came to the church but not the reception although she was invited.
2007-08-24 05:36:55 · update #2
No, it is not odd, it is wonderful, but unfortunately it doesn't happen very often. I used to get along with my husband's ex, she was my best friend, but she took advantage of it and used me to hurt my husband. So we do not even talk anymore. But if you can be friends it is the best gift you can give to your stepson, he really apreciates it, i am sure!
2007-08-24 05:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is no odd at all but where the hospital is concerned it is a red flag that automatically appears. The hospital takes a defensive stand because society usually isn't so understanding. I applaude you and the ex wife for getting along so well especially where kids are concerned. If there were more people like you, there would be less teens in trouble, they would know they could turn to the both of you if need be and just being comforted by the fact that you love the child enough to be there together makes the recovery processthat much faster.
2007-08-24 05:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not odd at all. My ex and wife get along FAR better than I do with the ex. Actually they are now pretty good friends, which is starting to be an annoyance for me. It's gotten to the point that when my ex calls up to talk about the kids for something, instead of asking me about it she talks to my wife. What really bugs me now is coming home from work and finding my wife talking with her in the living room. I swear I see my ex more now than when we were married!!
Another weird thing is I get along great with my ex's husband, we've actually taken my oldest son fishing a few times together and had a great time. We've also had a few family bbqs for kids birthdays or something and gotten along fine and pretty much spent the days together drinking beer while the kids and the wives talked and played.
2007-08-24 05:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by smf_hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's great when that happens. It makes life so-o-o much easier for the kids! My ex-husbands wife & I first found this out at a teacher/parent conference. She was going to stay out in the hall, but I invited her to come in. After all, my kids were at their house three days a week & she needed to know what was going on, how to help them, etc. At the time, she didn't have any children of her own. We used to sit together at all of the kids game (baseball, softball, soccer, hockey) & really got to know each other. Now my kids are grown & she & my ex have a nine year old. My kids lead a very adjusted "divorced family" life!
2007-08-24 05:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-31 04:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by irvin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not at all odd. Consider yourself lucky to be able to have a friendly relationship with the ex because as we all know, sometimes it can be a pain in the you know what. It just shows maturity on both sides. She obviously realizes that you will be in her childs' life and wants to make the best of the situation. You guys are blessed. Don't worry about what other people think of you, just continue doing what you think is right for the children.
2007-08-24 05:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by MeMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's odd, it's just something you don't see that often. But I thinks it's great!! It's a big help for the children because they can have both of you in their lives and not feel guilty. My parents never got along after their divorce and it's hard to be at your graduation and one parent on one end and one parent an the other. God Bless You Guys!!
2007-08-24 05:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by chula 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a mature relationship under any circumstance, even better when children are involved.
I can top that - when my husband and I were getting married, his two adult sons and ex wife stayed at his apartment the night before and they all came to our civil ceremony. They came from out of state. People were shocked. But come on, I have no problem with her nor does she have any problem with me. It's just a matter of maturity and who cares what others think?
2007-08-24 05:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no...not in my opinion...cause some people can't get along as husband & wife and are better just as friends. it sounds like this is the case with your husbands ex. most likely she sounds like she is mature enough to realize that it was the right thing to do cause you are a big part of her sons life. i don't think that it is odd that you & her get along..actually i think it is great that you can cause if you couldn't it would make it hard for the son . i hope this will help a little .
2007-08-24 05:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by confused angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is odd, but it is great. she showed you respect as the stepmom by being polite and telling the doctors who you were and asking you stay. the same way you were showing her respect as being the bio-mom by offering to leave the mother and father there. If you had interjected that you wanted the boy treated a certain way she may not have been receptive to that, but what you have something good and don't question it
2007-08-24 05:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by sa_183327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋