Still trying!!!!!?

Question

So I'm still trying to get pregnant and i started taking prenatal pills over a week ago now!!!!! So heres the thing i know it sounds bad but he doesnt know that im trying to get pregnant...... He doesnt finish in me he pulls out. so do you think theres a way i could still get pregnant just from his pre ***??? I want to get pregnant so bad and we have talked about what will happen if i do get pregnant. He said he'll step it up and do things different. What do you think i should do to get pregnant? any ideas

Answer 1

I don't think you should be ttc if he is not 100% on board. You may say you will take on all of the responsibility and he won't have to do anything but to be realistic you will need him physically and most importantly emotionally when that baby comes. I would talk to him about your feelings of wanting a baby and then see what he says. You need to make sure you both can handle this financially, emotionally and physically. It sounds like you two need to connect on all levels as a couple first and then add the joy of a baby. I am so excited because my husband of 4 years really,really wants a baby. That makes me even more overjoyed just knowing he is involved in the ttc part and is willing to look at baby items and he wants to help create our birthplan and attend parenting classes, etc. I love him even more for wanting to be a good father. I know I won't be able to control my emotions when I see him hold our baby that was made out of love for the first time. All women should get to experience this. Maybe he has some logical concerns or goals he wants to meet before being a father. Just hear him out and you the same. Best of luck and remember you won't get anywhere in life without trust, truth, love, faith, and commitment.

Answer 2

I think you need to talk to him about it. Tell him you would love nothing more than to have his child... it's possible to get pregnant with the pre-***, but it's a lot harder. It would be so much better for the both of you if you just tell him what's on your mind.

My boyfriend at the time (husband now) and I didn't talk about it at first. I was trying, like you, to get pregnant without him knowing that I was trying. Finally I talked to him and found out that he had been trying too!! He just couldn't figure out how he wanted to tell me! It was great.

Answer 3

If your husband or boyfriend isnt ready for a baby then maybe you should sit down and discuss this with him.....it's not nice to go behind his back and try and get pregnant....he may say that he will step up but what if he doesnt since he doesnt want to get pregnant in the first place....just talk to him...it's not just your decision its his too!!!

Answer 4

i wouldnt get pregnant unless i told him first. after all a child is something that is gonna change your life forever! I mean how would you like it if someone tricked you into something you had no idea about. If you really love him and want this child to have the best life possible you need to make sure the daddy is on board and ready also.

Answer 5

Well, I dont think you should try to get secretly pregnant. Its not right to try for a baby just to change or hook your man. If he isn't going to stay or shape up without the extra pressures and strain of a baby what makes you think he will stay and live up to the responsibilities with all the stress and pressures a new baby will bring. Fess Up and be an adult! And use a condom for god sake!

Answer 6

You shouldn't try to get pregnant without his consent. If he doesn't want then don't push it. You will regret it later. If your married discuss it and come to an agreement. If you're not then think about moving on and finding someone who wants what you want. But you shouldn't bring a child willing into this world with deception.

Answer 7

well, #1 you should TELL YOUR PARTNER!! Why would you want to get pregnant by tricking him?? How would you feel if the table was turned? You need to really think about what you're doing, b/c if you did happen to get pregnant, what if this is so big you lose your guy? Do you want that?
#2 your chances of getting pregnant from pre-come is very slim.

Answer 8

If you want a baby tell him that you want one don't just start doing things behind his back to try to get pregnant. What happens if you do get pregnant and he decides he doesn't want anything to do with this child. Can you care for him/her yourself?

Answer 9

you should be honest with him, being a parent is a huge responsibility and you should not trick him into it, that is very wrong on you..

you should rethink your motive tell him how you feel and see what he says.. it's easy for him to say he'll step up and raise the baby now, he may run as soon as you tell him you're pregnant..

plus what kind of relationship is this that you can't even tell him the truth

Answer 10

What!? He doesn't know you are trying to get pregnant. I think that is something you both need to agree on. You have probably talked about the possibly of it happening on accident, and now you are going ahead and purposely trying to get yourself pregnant without his approval. That is extremely immature. Please don't be one of those chicks, I know there's tons of them out there. It is a life changing decision and you need to make it together, not trap him in.